It took us several years to leave. from '94 or so, when we quit running out own fellowship, life got more and more grim.
In '96 some wierd/awful stuff happened involving people we really liked--that was a big crack.
'98 we went through major busy body reproof. I didn't want to return, hubby did. The next year we walked on eggshells. I wanted out.Our HFC was nasty to me, nice to hubby, but was sly, so hubby didn't see/hear the crap.
In '99 we took a three week vacation. Ahh freedom. We came back to more 'we just want to help you' crap. We walked.
At that time we were not M&A--but became that way with in months. Never heard from any of our 'friends' again.
Still Giddy with Freedom!(Life, even with its ups and downs, has been far, far more pleasant since leaving.)