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  1. I found GSC by doing a search on yahoo for The Way. I had already left. Before I left, I'd heard that we were to stay away from the net. It was warned that there was a site that if you went to it you would find out lies about the way, and be posessed and tricked into leaving. Aparently people had gone there and left. Not having a computer I didn't pay it any mind till I left. After leaving I went to the library and found GSC and 8 other websites calling the way a cult. I was mesmerized by the number of stories similar and worse than my own. I was amazed by the hurt people I'd respected had caused people I used to know. I used the GSC as group therapy to ease the pain and frustration left over from my vey experience. I needed someone to relate to who KNEW what only someone who's been there can really know.
  2. I'm looking for a list of all the no-no words. We all know of words and phrases that we could not use the way that everyone outside the way could. create hope faith-if used improper charity-who said they had the right to redefine that? mystic deja vu Christmas My mother has returned to the way. She says it is better and nicer and all that. Personally I haven't seen much change. I think she's wearing rose colored glasses that will be exposed after she has been around long enough, after all she hasn't taken the new advanced class so they have to keep being nice or she might not keep buying their silly classes. She knows that way trigger words still bother me a lot. They bring up really bad memories. I've asked her to try not to use them around me. However, she thinks that using them is somehow winessing to me, and a good thing. She says they are comforting to her and she loves sounding like the other people at fellowship. To help her understand that there are things I don't like to hear-I want a list of as many words and phrases that she wouldn't dare get caught saying. Then when she bends and manipulates conversations to add trigger words. I can counter with words like Christmas, creative engery, jinxed, ect.
  3. Since I stopped giving them my money; I've been "abundantly blessed" financially as well as in every other aspect of life.
  4. I gave 10-15% from my net. It varied with the pressure they put on me. They were strict about geting it too. In 2000 my FC strongly confronted me, because I didn't hand him a check with at least 10% of my paycheck BEFORE I DEPOSITED IT IN THE BANK! He argued that to deposit my paycheck in the bank before writing the way the check was puting other things before God. He figured once I have access to my money any of it I spent before the next Fellowship meeting (when I'd have my next chance to abs) say I bought gas to get to twig- that would be putting gas before God. We argued a lot. I never would give him a check from an empty account. He even wanted to know exactly how much money I made. He said it was his responsibility to to report to his superiors and would be in trouble because I wouldn't prepay my tithe. Same FC tried to sue me for telling him that I would not be coming back to his fellowship!
  5. I don't know about any current bumper stickers. They do however have magnets. My mother has two on her front door. They really bug me. She is very proud of them though.
  6. I'm sorry to hear about your sister. It takes a lot of guts to be honest with people when you know that there's a good chance that they may change how they feel about you. I agree that you did not choose to be gay you just are. I'm bisexual, always have been always will be. I was first attracted to at the same point in life that I waws attracted to boys. When other girls played doctor with boys I played doctor with either. This was long before anyone ever told me anything about sexual orientation. At some point I was told that it was wrong. So I tryed to change, I tried so hard that I managed to get into denial. Was I changed? No, I just felt guilt and denial. I missed out on soo much because of fear of what my family would think. About 3 years ago I finally came to terms with myself. I quit being in denial. It was quite a transition,in the end my whole life made more sence. I first came out to my fiance, he was thrilled. It actually brings us closer. We love checking out the same wemon. Then I came out to a few close female friends. I was shocked to find out that two of the three of them were bi also. And the third one is only into being with guys but looking at wemon. Last year I came out to my parents and older bro. They took it much better than I expected. My mother is still an innie. I'm pretty sure she hasn't bragged about that to her fc. Thank you for coming out! Reading your post finally gave me the courage to come out here as well. I think I saved the hardest places for last. I know the joy of being myself from where I have come out. I only wish I had the courage to stop hiding from my coworkers. I've learned to love who I am. I wouldn't change it for the world. Not that I haven't tried. But I wouldn't try again. I'm glad that you've begun to accept yourself and hopefully realize that (all religious views aside) you are who you are and there's a reason for that, wether we understand it or not.
  7. I was always confused by all that too.
  8. Anyone Know Jack and Marilyn Jones. Kids Jon, Heather,David,Adam and Jacob? "free at last"
  9. I'm looking for Tracy Witwer from Arizona. Anyone know if the Whitwers are still in? "free at last"
  10. Joel if you see let me know. You know me and I was wondering if you ever check this place out. "free at last"
  11. I miss Sierra. I don't know wher she is though. I thought mabey if I brought this to the top someone who know her might see it. "free at last"
  12. red

    Red's story

    I got married! I'm so happy. Life is really going good for me.
  13. red

    Red's story

    Thank you all for the responses. Gladtobeout, I sent you an e-mail with my address. You may e-mail me if you would like. I didn't list an e-mail address publicaly. That was because if I don't recognize the senders adress I assume it is spam. I don't want to deleat messages from greasespotters without glancing at them. So if anyone else wishes to e-mail me let me, please just let me know. "free at last"
  14. red

    Red's story

    Even better, My innie relatives are still fine with me. I was worried that they wouldn't accept me anymore. I'm a little concerned because now I've been out two years and my parents have divorced and my mother still is considering returning to fellowship. "free at last"
  15. red

    Red's story

    Since signing off the lease and moving out of her life completely, I've had no harrassement from her or my old FC. Next July I'll be marrying a wonderful guy that I love. I don't feel the need to attend a church "free at last"
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