Wacky Funster

Need I say more? I sorely miss leaving little messages-and reading all the little messages all day...I always got a kick out of those. Is anyone working on our predicament? or do I have to find some C.A. meetings

Sorry, herbal My puter crashed on me...and when I returned, you were gone...and the sad thing was...you couldn't leave me a message, nor me leave you one Is someone puter savy hearing our plea?????

Most of the fun of that chatroom was seeing all the messages people would leave during the day. Yahoo...if you're there, you're there, if you're not, you're not... I almost missed herbal this morning because you really can't walk away from it...:( This is absolutely a day of mourning...

It closed again at 9:06pm this evening, if anyone is keeping notes...

I think the countdown person has been messin' with our heads

This is definately a sad day for me But...onward and upward chatterers... Try the yahoo chat. It's not the greatest, but, hopefully there will be people there.

...you make my heart sing... ...you make everything groovy... Wildthang... Have a Very Very Industrious Day Peace

Gosh...I remember being little, and thinking about my age in the year 2000...I couldn't believe it when it came...now...it's 2 years beyond. Where does the time go? Have an absolutely WONDERFUL birthday, krys...

Yes. I am still going to San Fransisco to take my tour guide training. It is only 2 weeks...will probably start tour guiding February, 2003. Tour guiding is like being a stewardess...you go all over, but then return to home port. Right now my home port is Cape Cod...but, I will be transitioning to a new area in the interm of all this going on. I'll probably rent out my house here, which is very teeny, only 18 x 24 feet, but absolutely darling for some city folk to wanna live in and commute to Boston...or I'll use it for a summer rental and make big $$$...Regardless, the rent will be my social security income when I retire, seeing as I haven't a pension... I have thrown all my confetti up in the air, and, dabba, it's in the process and coming down in a new, and hopefully, more fulfilling pattern. I miss the mountains, I miss the rolling hills... I've been here way too long. It's the place I when leaving twi. It's time to go. I think an affordable co-housing community is what is needed for the future of the boomers. Anyways...I love communal living, and plan on developing one...I'm sure there's info on the net about them. Peace

I've already written a little blurb here, but, it didn't come out ...so, I'll try and do it again An old Waydaler, listening to me talk about my travels, and things that I do called me "wacky"...and a "funster"...so I put them together. Creative huh? My icon is Percy the Penguin. I have been trying to get on the Woods Hole Research vessel to Antarctica all year, so, that was my attempt to remind myself about it. Needless to say, the ship just left last week, and I am here. I couldn't have gone this time of year anyways...I wanted Nov. til February. I guess it's time to change the icon. I do travel alot, but, not as much as other GSers in here. I dream and plan on travelling. It keeps me going, I think. My next trip is to North Carolina to find someone who wants to just about give me 100 acres of land to start an affordable co-housing community. Sounds a tad wacky, doesn't it? Live simple, with simple people. I'm getting tired of the rudeness and greed I'm seeing everywhere...I wanna live my days peacefully, not in this rat race.

Congratulations Cattycup and Geek... Miss seeing you Enjoy the rest of your lives together

Bowtwi... I rarely read such long posts, but I did read yours this am...and it has me in tears. I hope you are well now, and getting the support you need even still. I can't even imagine the torment you must have felt, but, as I was reading, my skin was crawling and my eyes were tearing. I had a relatively fun time in twi, so rarely speak bad of it...but... This situation you speak is really making me see how EVIL and VILE twi is...CRUEL...MEAN... My god is a gentle god...my god is a god of love...Can this truly be the same twi that I thought was teaching me the goodness of god? Holy Moly...how blind was I? If there's anything I can do for you, and, I don't have much, please let me know.

...here's one for you, I think you'll appreciate. About...oh....40 years ago...I gave my dad a rose bush for Father's Day, which he planted right outside the kitchen bay window. I was daddy's "little girl"...so, when I went off to college and left the house for good, every Father's Day, when I'd call, or visit...the rose was in bloom. One big pink rose...and he would ALWAYS make mention of it...very proud of that rose. Unknowingly, when I bought my house and started planting my gardens, I planted a pink rose outside my back door. This morning, when I arose, and went out to feed the bunnies...I saw, consciously for the first time, that I had a rose bush there...and that today, of all days...there is ONE PINK SINGLE ROSE on it. Perhaps I was thinking progeny today...dunno why I thought about being childless today... It all started with my dad...and the pink rose he bloomed in my back yard. Blame him. There are no coincidences

Your post made me cry. (long pause) Perhaps my timing was in bad taste...but, then again...perhaps not. I think your post made me feel like...not only is it ok for you and I not to have kids...but...it's even ok to feel it, and voice it on father's day...or mother's day...it doesn't matter. Feelings are feelings, and this is what came up for me today. Feelings have no boundaries, and no direction, and usually are always in poor timing For those of you offended by this thread, it wasn't my intention...and if you feel the "Father's Day" thread should be pronounced, by all means...start posting in it, and bring it to the top. Let this one fall off the end of the page into oblivion...

Yeah....good idea

"They probably already have a day for that! Someone could check a calender, like Hallmark, who'll make a card for any occasion... I'm sure it isn't celebrated on Mother's Day or Father's Day ~ what would be the sense of it?????" I'm curious to know why you even came into this thread? What's the point? It was to be a nice thread acknowledging people who made other choices. You attitude doesn't shock me, but...why bother with it here?

Geez...interesting responses. I was "creating" a day for the rest of us, and somehow, it seems, a few of you feel attacked. You know, Adios...it's almost like we can never be "good" enough. If you don't have any, why? If you "only" have one...that's not enough...If you have 4 people think you're crazy...yada yada yada Seems to me, people just like looking for excuses to put other people down. Never satisfied...never enough...or too much...or not good enough... We want it bigger, brighter, better...and we want it NOW. Live and let live is what I say ...we are such critics and judgers, aren't we?

"Sorry you weren't loved enough...as a child" Did I say that? I was very loved... ??? Ginger, no offense, but, as always, I could ????? Your whole reply... Oy Vey

I was up early this morning...started thinking of my deceased dad, being Father's Day and all. My parents were not the greatest examples or marriage in the least!!!...and...they had their own unique ideas to what parenting meant. Even when I was married, I never really wanted to have kids. I've taught children from ages 2 1/2 to 21...normal kids, retarded kids, autustic kids...in public schools, in private schools.(moving in twi every year, get my drift? ) I've been teacher, mentor and "mommy" (when parent's had abandoned their kids)... But, I've never really wanted my own. It's funny when mom's are all worn out and paniced...and look at me and say "You just don't understand!!!"...I always reply..."Oh, yes I do..why do you think I don't have any!" Sometimes I feel judged by others for not having any. I know I am coveted because I don't have any. I speak to hundreds of people a year, on a very deep level, and true confessions is (by the majority of them): "If I were to do it all over again, I wouldn't have any." That comes from both men and women. I understand that comment. I see folks using their children to supply their own needs...that they just "couldn't" live without them. I will ask mom friends of mine "How are you?" and they proceed to tell me all about THEIR KIDS...I finally make them stop, and repeat..."Yes, but...HOW ARE YOU?" Many are clueless. People with kids think that those of us without them should in some way be responsible for their kids in some way or fashion...look out for them somehow, I don't quite get it. I count it a blessing I don't have children now. I can always have foster kids, and chances are I'll re-marry someone with them...be a mentor or friend to them. So, to all you single folk out there or married with no kids:...Pawtucket, mstar, Garth, Zshot, Jimextwi, Hopeful, Pamsandiego, Radar, Extwi, etc.... Happy UnParent's Day!!!!! I am so Happy to Be among you this Day [This message was edited by Wacky Funster on June 16, 2002 at 9:03.]

Good Morning, all you dad's out there!!!! I wish I had time to do a fancy icon...or flowers...or a pic...of something dad's might do...like... hunt... fish... golf... baseball... do church... organic garden... shoot armadillos... puter nerdy stuff... ...But...I haven't the time right now, I must be running out... Have a BLAST of a day

I remember when I first got to Waydale 2+ years ago. I was very confused by the whole set up. But, in addition to that...there was a woman named Victoria who apparently edited and deleted posts all over the place. I was extremely confused at that...and actually left waydale for a few months in total confusion, until a poster explained to me what had happened. It was not until then that I ventured back. The threads made absolutely NO SENSE...and responses to her posts made no sense...and, to someone coming for help-it sure did the exact opposite for me. I think one day is plenty enough. I'm sure if there is "poster remorse", Pawtucket could fidget with the controls to remedy the situation if it must be. [This message was edited by Wacky Funster on June 15, 2002 at 19:04.]

I agree with GOE... Hey Rocky...is this rockyrococo from the other site?

Sorry, Hope. I didn't mean that we NEED to get validation from these folks...but, just that fact that we hang together IS validation...and builds esteem. You don't have to answer to anyone. I guess I didn't make that clear.

Great topic, Hope...just one I was thinking about recently. When I left twi, I started out alone. When the masses weren't there anymore, and I was left to my own devices, it was very obvious that there was something wrong. A few guys from AA noticed me, and thought I was high on cocaine...but in actuality> I smoked 2 packs of cigarettes a day, and at least 10 cups of coffee. (necessary witnessing items, ya know )...and was flying... They suggested I had an addiction problem...I immediately entered ACOA meetings where I found out I had "renewed my mind" into absolute complacency...I had no feelings. So, I went cold turkey on the smokes...and, it was a few more months before the coffee went...That's when I really cracked...my "cover-ups" were no longer there. It's easy to suck on a smoke, and down coffee...people expect you to be anxious and high...but, it's not natural...not if you are looking for "self-actualization" (a term I picked up and strived for as a psych major in college). I spent every day at an ACOA meeting...I entered individual therapy and group therapy. Every penny I made went to my "recovery". I learned many things...and have gone many places... Fact is...I NEEDED the group and like-minded people to validate my feelings...hundreds of them...I needed their support and shoulders. The difference with this group of people was...Noone, not one, told me how to think, or what to believe, or tell me I was wrong for any choices I made. Perhaps I'll re-write that in bold type: NO ONE, NOT ONE, TOLD ME HOW TO THINK, OR WHAT TO BELIEVE, OR TELL ME I WAS WRONG FOR ANY CHOICES I MADE. People need people (that's what makes us the luckiest people in the world, doncha know?)...and groups are not bad, they are necessary...and like-minded groups give us a sense of esteem and validation for our choices. I don't think criticizing or judging another group is ever justified...because each group has it's own merits...each is necessary, even if for nothing else, but for a good fight. However, When and if a group gets to the point where members are controlled or manipulated in any way....when a person feels betraying because they don't attend the group... When the group becomes more important than caring for yourself, your family or your environment... Then, I deem it unhealthy. Get out. Get help. ...We've slipped back into codependency...and, unless we wanna live unhappy, unfulfilled lives,..then codependency is NOT the place we want to be.

Well, it's about time...