vickles

OMG Excie I hate to say this but you sure are looking frumpy lately. And here I pictured you a sexy redhead and then this. How disappointing. I met someone years ago at International that looked just like that but younger. I didn't like her too much.

Thanks so much all!!!

We arrived here in Colorado. We were up 30 hours straight. How in the world did we drive to the Rock every year? I had a little Dodge neon that had my son in the front seat with the 2 shih zu's and my wolf dog had the back seat. I got a sedative for the big one (which btw did not work at all!!!! ), he did not like being in that back seat one iota. The little ones were probably too dumb to realize where we are...... (just kidding, Dot).

I got a transfer for work and was my first day here and hate it. I will be looking for other work....wha wha!!!!

Our house is so cute and Bob's high school old buddy friends are so nice. And the skies are bluer than I have ever seen. It is so warm and so different from Minnesota. We made it safe and sound!!!!

My dear friend, excie, Just kidding.....

My dear friend Tom. The vacuuming nakee thing is our secret....

Thanks all if anyone's in the area let me know or visiting you can always stay at my place.

Please keep us in your prayers as we are traveling starting early tuesday morning with all our animals, a 17 year old and 2 vehicles.

Bolshevik, Ha ha, you have a good memory... I'm sure my son will be, he loves football.....

His name is Bob. Not an ex-twi or twi person. I have known him for 6 years now. He has been most wonderful to my children and myself. He is actually from Colorado.

The date is set for November 15th.

Thanks!!! I'm excited, anxious, and all of the above...

Yes, it is true. We are leaving tuesday. I even got a transfer from work to move there and bought a house.

Thanks so much. The paper came up but is a little hard to read so am going to the library to see if I make a copy I can read it. It looks pretty good. I appreciate that.

I didn't know you were in school too. What are you taking?

I signed up but didn't recognize people. I think I must have alzheimers or......my mind is possessed again.....

Or did I go to the wrong site?......

Well you all have me there. I guess I will still have to grin and bear it.....

I have two males in my life, and one (who is my son) loves football. Where we are moving to there is a football field for the city about three blocks away. I guess high school football won't be so bad....

Happy Birthday David,

May you have the best birthday!!!!!!

Sincerely,

Vickles

That would be interesting...vacuum nakee out side at a Texas BBQ. Are you sure its just a BBQ? It sounds kind of like Hippy Hollow to me in Austin.

I wouldn't mind going to a nudist colony.

Thanks for the response on my paper. I enjoyed writing it and I did get a 100 % on my paper with a thank you note from my professor. He was the hardest professor I have ever had and at the end to grade my last paper with the 100% was quite an honor.

I grew up with football. My dad and brothers watched it on a regular basis. Us women, girls rented a tv just so we could watch something else. I even went to football games in school.

Still don't see where the excitement is. Now basketball or baseball is a total different story. But I need to see that in real life not on the television.

Hey, I've never understood why men love football so much. All I see are bodies running around throwing footballs around. The bodies are nice to watch but knowing these guys usually makes lots of money and think they can do anything they want to because they 'think' they have power is sickening.

So men tell me why football is so wonderful?

My dear ole buddy Tom Strange finally answers.......

Someone actually asked me if I really do vacuum nakee..... I ain't tellin....

Johniam, your right its about the many hats or roles we play in society. I'm sorry for some that took it so deeply. Its a very on the surface writing.

Shell, well that butte looks very real......

Of course, Vickles, you're welcome. Given the many conversations you and I have had about sociology, psychology, and etc., I love reading others' stuff!

I'm so thrilled you enjoyed the class, it was one of my favorites too, although taken a long time ago and answered a few questions for me as well.

Cool that you got answers from it also.

Hey Shell, I have to ask this Who in the heck is that pic of? I hope its not you? :unsure:

Ok David, it was written with paragraphs and double spaced but somehow when sent on greasespot it didn't do that.

Waysider, I totally understand, that is why this was so interesting to me. If anyone has a chance and is interested I strongly encourage you to take a sociology class. I understood a lot more about myself and how things were in twi. Why we allowed it to control us in some ways. It is ok to have many me's. Even though twi told me I was possessed I found that it is quite normal to be this way...

Hey White dove, I've been busy with my many roles. When I've been on I've seen you either on the cell (which I don't want to use your minutes up) or you are sitting idle and not there. So, my dear friend, you better speak to me one of these days.... :P

Thanks Shell!!!!!

Johniam, I love to vaccuum nakee.

How Many Me’s are there?

I believe that there are several different roles that each person plays every day in order to get along in society. The different roles we play we have to conform to that social group that we are in at that time. For instance, I have different roles I play everyday. The roles change who I am depending on the responsibility and others that I’m around. My roles are mother, girlfriend, daughter, friend, employee, neighbor, and a Christian, to name of few. Each role that I play in life changes my responsibility allowing me to be different in those roles. We all believe that we are one person, and we are but there are so many facets to that one person in order for us to get along within our own societies that we may be in. And in these roles our responsibilities change.

First and foremost I’m a mother. When I spend time with my family, in this role I’m a leader. I’m a single parent and make decisions for my children. I have to be responsible as I have two children that are dependent on me. I have to make decide on if we spend family time together, clean the house, whatever is needed. I’m the role model that is looked up to. So I need to act accordingly what is expected of me as a parent. My expectations of what my role is are from what society has allowed us and what my own expectations are. As a parent I have to be responsible enough to have a home to live in, pay my bills so we have water and electricity. To make sure that my children are fed and have clothes to wear. As a parent I have another role I have as a parent is to be accountable to others to make sure my children get the education they need. So, I go to meetings when asked at school to help my children grow responsibly. I also am responsible to teach my children what good roles they can play in society and help and guide them through their growing years. Although my daughter is in college this year and my son is in high school I still play the same role but it is different as they have gotten older. I’m still responsible in most ways but they are also becoming more independent. As a mother I have to learn to let go.

As a role of a girlfriend, I am totally different than being a mother. I don’t have to make all the decisions. I can be playful, mature, immature, demanding, and carefree if I care to. I have someone that I can go to the movies with, go out to dinner, or just stay home and relax with. I don’t have to be a role model. As a girlfriend I can have the kid in me if I need to or I can be a responsible adult, depending on the situation. And what the expectations of my boyfriend would be. My boyfriend and I have learned to conform to each other or it wouldn’t work.

As a daughter, my role is different in the fact that if I chose, I can be a dependent as my parents were always the ones in charge. When I’m with them I don’t have any responsibilities except to be myself. I can go to my parents without judgment and be able to get advice or any help that I may need for me to play the other roles in society that I am. If I have a problem I can go to them and be a kid once again. I know they will still love me and except me for who or what I am. This makes me feel at home and comfortable as a daughter. However, as I get older, this role is also changing as my parents are changing and are becoming more vulnerable. I see myself in a couple of years switching our roles as me becoming their parent.

Another role that I have is the role as a friend. I have a best friend that I have had for 41 years. We met at 9 years old and have been best friends ever since. She is someone that I can spend time with and there are no expectations of either of us. We can share anything and even though we are opposite of one another we still can give total support of each other. We have no judgment of each other and have always been there. If I ever needed help that I felt that I didn’t want my parents to know she would be there for me just as I would be there for her. Her family is like a second family to me. I can call her mother up and spend time with her similar to my own mother.

In a role as an employee, I am responsible to my employers to be honest and work the best I can. I don’t play the role of a boss but I do have responsibilities as a person in management. In order to be a good employee I have to make sure that when I’m on their time that I’m professional at all times and doing what is asked of me. I make sure I wear the clothes that are asked of me. I’m also responsible while at work of a lot of money and have to make sure that the money is where it is suppose to be at all times. I’m in locked doors with the camera on at all times so I have to make sure that even though I may not be with someone but I am to be professional at all times.

In the role as a neighbor, I make sure that I’m friendly at all times and if needed I am there for them. I am responsible to keep my yard clean and mowed. I make sure my children keep their music down and make sure my dogs are kept in my yard and not barking constantly. With my neighbors I don’t show any negativism and always keep them at a neutral level. My neighbors are not my friends but I will be cordial to them in order to get along in the neighborhood. I don’t allow them to know the real me, just as a nice friendly person. The reason for this is that we do live close to the neighbors and I don’t want them into our lives all the time. It would be hard to get away if the friendship doesn’t work out.

I’m quite the opposite when I play the role as a Christian. I go to church and am friendly. I am mostly quiet and positive and at times am reflective. If there needs to be something done I may volunteer my time. I don’t share too much with others as I don’t feel comfortable with others knowing my personal life. I feel if others at church know me too well that they will consider me a person that is not what a Christian should be and I don’t want to be judged. As a Christian I play a person that can be looked up to. When I was younger I used to be in what was considered a cult. I was told how or what to do things and was controlled in most of my aspects of life. I decided the role I play as a Christian will not allow me to become controlled with how I am as a person or if I give all my money to an organization ever again in my life. I don’t want Christians to know me because then that will allow them to control and hurt my family and myself. As Christian I’m expected to go to church. This is what I think my society is expects of me if I play the role of Christian.

In all these roles I have I play a different dimension of myself. I have the same ethical beliefs, same fears, same goals, but I play the role that works for me in my role depending on who I’m with. For instance, I will not act as an employee in my home or when I’m at church but I may act as a girlfriend or a parent when I’m home or at church. So the different dimensions may or may not cross each other depending on what role I need to play at any given moment. Society can be complicated but for me as an individual but to survive as a culture my different roles change so that I can work with the different responsibilities I may have in life.

Cowgirl that was good too.

I am amazed how wonderful it is to be myself also. I love to be able to speak my mind when I want to. Or be quiet because I want to. I can' t believe how much I worried about other people and what they thought of me. Or worried that my house was messy. Now I think that is for the young...let them worry. If they don't like what they see its their problem...

How wonderful to be free of all that!!!!!

Your so welcome!!!!!!! When I read it I thought wow how did this person know I needed this?

A family member sent this to me today and thought that some of you would enjoy reading this.

The other day a young person asked me how I felt about being old. I was taken aback, for I do not think of myself as old. Upon seeing my reaction, she was immediately embarrassed, but I explained that it was an interesting question, and I would ponder it, and let her know.

Old Age, I decided, is a gift. I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror (who looks like my mother!), but I don't agonize over those things for long.

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I' ve aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon?

I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60&70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set.

They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compas sion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have & nbsp;become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day. (If I feel like it)

MAY OUR FRIENDSHIP NEVER COME APART ESPECIALLY WHEN IT'S STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART!

MAY YOU ALWAYS HAVE A RAINBOW OF SMILES ON YOUR FACE AND IN YOUR HEART FOREVER AND EVER!

I'm still praying too. How are you?

((((((Felix))))))) Hugs and prayers!!!!

I love you and really wish you well. I always think of you and think about that darn car with all the writings on it.....Remember? I do believe I even drove that darn thing.....

Please let us know how your doing.

Sincerely,

Vicki

I have been known to vacuum nakee...

He was in the 11th early on but left abruptly in the winter of his first year. I remember I packed up all his belongings to ship back to him.

Yes, he did leave. I was his partner for one of the classes during that time. I've always wondered what happened after he left. He was a great guy and I really liked him. Please if you do hear from him or anything, would you let me know?

Thanks!!!!

Awwwww Felix, Many hugs to you!!!!! I am praying!!! you are in my thoughts and well wishes for you!!!!!