A friend asked me to post this. I'm sure this friend will be reading, and I'll pass along any replies.
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I am in a quandry..... I have to tell my teens (14 and 17 yers old)about the dark side of TWI. I left TWI within the past few months, but they are still involved (yet not fully committed) along with my spouse (also not fully committed). I have been in much communion with the Father about how to tell my teens. I know I cannot express on this post all the stuff that goes through my heart regarding this issue. Please allow me space to sort some of these thoughts. I appreciate any insight/guidance anyone has. Please understand that I am trying to look at this from their point of view. What might they think?
(Side note: I left TWI after 4 to 5 years of contemplation and 1-1/2 years after finding GSC. I did not leave because of GSC. I read the stories. Some I believed and some I really wondered about. Then I told myself, that even if these were true TWI had changed. Any organization made of people will have sh** happen. But the hole in my sole grew bigger this past year to the point that it was effecting my kids...and that's when I left.
My kids' experiences with TWI have been good. They were not acutely aware of M & A. I shielded them from much of LCM's rantings. They know my spouse & I do not agree with TWI debt teachings and have questioned Eve's garden sin. They know I don't believe TWI is THE household of God. I have taught them to the best of my ability to be honest with their emotions...to allow themselves to feel...to not stuff down & suppress what they feel.)
'Well, what about all the abuse that has gone on? There are no words sufficient to fully communicate the humiliation and torment that some folks have experienced. Yet these incidents were in the past. People change. God is merciful. Life goes on. TWI has "changed." The people in TWI we have been involved with are good people. Perhaps the folks abused are exagerrating. If we turn from TWI aren't we acting judgmentally & harshly...just to leave our fellowship and friends?'
My heart breaks to try to communicate what I am trying to figure out. I'm just going to go back and forth with my thoughts and see if anyone out there can pick up on and maybe better disentangle the web in my mind.
I think, to just be honest with them. Tell them what I've heard and read here. Tell them what I first heard in 1986(?) from the John Lynn tapes and how I came to my decision then to continue to stand with TWI. Do I tell them that RFR & DM "might" be lesbians? "Might be" is not enough. People are innocent until proven guilty.
What about the fact the TWI has never offered any closure to the allegations, never offered counsel to abuse victims?
Do I KNOW that D. M**nyh*n knew what was happening and covered for LCM? Do I KNOW that? I have to admit that I don't know that.
Such churning in the soul....I wish I were Yoda.