I noticed earlier in the thread, you mentioned growing up Roman Catholic, and that there was a lot of guilt and condemnation served up with everything else. That's a shame, but hardly universal among Christians, let alone Roman Catholics.   I do think Catholicism has lost large numbers to other Christian groups without all the condemnation-  from those who actually teach the condemnation.  (There's other reasons too, but going to church AND feeling bad is a senseless combination.)