Rocky

Nonsense. Just stop. Nobody said you were entitled to define my intended message.

Please just stop.

Belonging is an emotional, not (as I included it on this thread) a political concept.

Again, brazenly political.

That's "nice." However, that is brazenly political.

You might believe it to be bunk, idk. But if you believe it had been "shown to be bunk" I'd be interested in seeing where and how that was stated. Perhaps you were thinking of Daniel Goleman? Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ. Social Intelligence: the New Science of Human Relationships This one was published in 2006. There has been a good bit of research on the subject in the 17 years since then.

Emotional maturity, the strength at issue here, is about inner peace and strength. In contrast, those who champion and cling to the distinctiveness of (only) their own families, IMO, dramatically lack emotional maturity (and intelligence).

Oh, okay. Still not what I was getting at.

No. Perhaps you're thinking tribalism? I'm thinking and trying to communicate something entirely different. The closest anyone has responded to my intended meaning is the video clip Nathan shared early on. If we, as parents, raise emotionally mature and sound children, they'll be accepting of others and NOT NEED to find group identity in cults. Geez, this really doesn't seem so difficult to me. But I've been studying the concept for decades. Clearly, I didn't properly assess my audiences ability to think outside of the cult mindset.

That would probably be a failure of curiosity on your part, and apparently not clearly communicating my point on my part.

Now you're doing it?

Are you trying to say that YOU (Bolshevik) understood it to mean ... ? You seem to be slipping into what MIKE used to do a lot. You don't get to decide what I intended to mean. You DO get to tell me/us what you understood it to mean and then to ask if your understanding was/is correct.

Well, hopefully not any longer.

Well, I see your position as a failure of imagination and curiosity.

IF your child(ren), as young adults, have developed a strong sense of self-worth and belonging, will they be less vulnerable to the likes of Victor Wierwille or Loy C Martindale? I would hope so.

Don't let failures of imagination set you up for catastrophe. Btw, that's not the first time I've viewed that video clip. I think it's wonderful. Thanks for asking/commenting in ways that help clarify. THE point, with the meme to which you responded, is to set your children up for personal emotional and social intelligence. To not do so might be well illustrated by the verse in Ephesians 4 about being tossed about with every wind of doctrine. You DO want to help your kiddo(s) grow up with strong and healthy emotional and social resources, right?

Giving your son an anchor in a storm doesn't mean he has to use the insight to exclude others, does it? Now you have an objective to guide you on how/what to teach and train.

Okay, you're disturbed by facts. I can't help that or you. I'd rather not continue to disturb you. Therefore, please don't read this thread.

It's not a corporate buzzword, IMO. It's founded in social psychology research, but thanks for playing along, in a seemingly disturbing way.

Don't you wish you had learned this at a younger age? Like, for me, about 50 years ago.