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I've read a number of arguments which propose the idea that homosexuals seem to want "special treatment" by requesting the right to marry each other. Tne argument is homosexuals have the right to marry if they choose, just like everyone else, as long as they choose a partner of the opposite sex.

Ok, let's replace homosexuals with race. Say bi-racial marriages were illegal, you are only allowed to marry people of the same race. Is this equality? Everyone can still get married, right? The only rule is you cannot marry someone of a different race. Nothing wrong with that is there?

To every man his own truth and his own God within.

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Originally posted by Abigail:

"No, this mayor wasn't just interpreting the Law incorrectly, which is a job that should be left to the Judicial branch of California government, he flat out broke the Law by handing out marriage certificates to Citizens who did not qualify un der California Law. "

It actually raises a number of interesting points and questions. A few people here were very upset by the Mass. ruling because it in a sense, imposed a law upon other states instead of allowing each state to decide for themselves.

But what about the residents of a city, within a state, who do not want the state to impose a law upon them?

I know how the arrangments work, federal, state and city, no one needs to explain it to me. But the point is, we all at times have laws imposed upon us we don't like. Others would like to see more laws than those which currently exist. This is exactly why the federal government does attempt to have some uniformity within the legal system. Otherwise, we have exactly what is happening in California right now, a city rebelling against its own state. A form of civil disobedience.

"Let's thumb our nose at the Law, do what we want, no matter how the Majority votes! "

Awe come on Jonny, are you trying to convince me you've never thumbed your nose at the law? Never smoked a little weed? Drank a little beer before you were of age? Drove faster than the speed limit?

BTW, civil disobedience is in large part what brought about equal rights for African Americans. Were they just thumbing their noses at the law? Would you have also told them to shove it where the sun don't shine?

To every man his own truth and his own God within.


First, (not to you Abigail, but for others who may not know) the state is the sovereign, not a city, county, or township.

If they choose to engage in civil disobedience then they, like the civil rights protesters of the 1950s and 1960s, need to be willing to accept the consequences of their actions.

There is one big difference between the civil rights protesters of the last century and the current battle...the civil rights protesters had the 15th Amendment of the Constitution on their side. Clearly. I don't see anywhere in the US Constitution that guarantees people their rights regardless of their sexual preference or activity. That is why I advocate an amendment to append sexual preference or proclivity as a basis for non-discrimination specified in the 15th Amendment. In this way, up or down, it can be voted on. Then there will be some law to back this movement up.

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Mark

yep yep yep .

I was watching one of the news shows with a huge big man who was in the NFL and was homosexual .

He had a boyfriend the whole time but they had to keep it a secret he won one of the fancy rings (I do not do football excuse my ignorance ) and his partner could not be at the ceremony, they could not talk on the cell phone afraid someone would over hear.

Why? he said he had no doubt an "accident" playing the game would take him out of the game forever if his team mates found out . He would get hurt badly.

this dude was as mucho as they come a NFL player big tough man , he frankly said he kept his relationship with his boyfriend a secret because he was convinced the other players would hurt him in some way .

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Hey mon,

I live up here in Alaska. I remember the big "advertising" on both sides. It took money to get the word out for both interested parties; the "pro same sexers", and those opposed. There is not a thing wrong with either side doing that. But it wasn't "clever ads" by the "church people" who caused me or others to vote against it, it was simply that I learned of the proposition through the publicity which the gay rights people didn't want publicized. Then all I had to do was to vote my previously formed opinion on the matter as did the rest of the majority of Alaskans. I do remember how the gay crowd kicked and screamed over all of the publicity by those who wanted traditional marriage to mean a "man and a woman", and not this same sex thing.

Oh yeah, all of those who were running adds to inform the voters of this proposition were called haters and homophobes because of the "hate publicity" and "hate speech" that they were spreading like a cancer, infecting peoples minds via the newspapers, radio stations and television stations. Shoot, there was no "infecting of my mind", I just needed to know what propositions were there to vote on or against!

Even I was personally called a hater and a homophobe by a shipmate "straight/Leftie" on the day of the vote. Fact was, I screwed up and almost missed the chance to vote because I didn't do an absentee ballot back in this town of Haines, and hadn't expected to be at work on the ferry that week. And this guy laughed at me in a "ha-ha, nanny nanny boo boo" sort of a way because he knew that I didn't get to vote on the marriage proposition. And he called me a h-phobe/ hater and all of that rot.

But, I actually got off the ship in Sitka and found that there was a precinct right next to the ferry terminal, and the only issues I was not allowed to vote on were local city of Sitka issues, or the issues back in Haines where I live because they weren't on the Sitka ballot. But all other State candidates and issues were opened to my vote, right there on a rural road 12 miles from rain soaked "Sitka By The Sea" as we like to call it. What a country, eh?!

Oh boy oh boy! Was that guy pi$$ed when he saw my "I Voted, Have you"? sticker on the breast pocket of my coveralls! He actually thought I got it from somebody else, until someone else informed him that we had voted together at the precinct right next to the ferry terminal. And when the results became known the next day he called me a homophobe and a "hater" all over again. He was quite livid. I told him that at least he could be happy over the "medical marijuana" thing going his way..

So hey Treffor. Yous gotta problem with the public being informed as to what is on the docket? I sure hope not...

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The reason for my abrupt abandoning of posting to this thread is that Pawtucket intervened "to moderate" my posts. This means that I can no longer post to Grease Spot forums without my posts first being held for review.

I will not, of course, attempt to continue an argument under these conditions.

It looks like I'll possibly be setting up my own website, where, among other things, I might critique some things that have been (and will be) posted to the Grease Spot forums--though I do not intend to let commentary about Grease Spot posts or figures become more than a very minor part of the substance of the site.

If I set up the site, whatever commentary I make should eventually be accessible through search engines.

Adieu.

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Oh, and Mark, there is a "slight difference" between drinking some brews before legal age, smoking some weed, and being an elected mayor of one of the largest and most prestigious cities in the whole world! He was handing out legal documents to people who do not qualify for these legal documents. Huge difference!

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Oh, and Mark, there is a "slight difference" between drinking some brews before legal age, smoking some weed, and being an elected mayor of one of the largest and most prestigious cities in the whole world! He was handing out legal documents to people who do not qualify for these legal documents. Huge difference!


JL: was that question to me? or to Abigail? I just quoted and responded to her post. Please clarify.

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Hey, Cynic, thwarted again, eh? I wondered where you got off to. Now that conditions have improved, I hope you keep posting. Otherwise, make sure you send us a link so we can find you. My dictionary could use a good workout.

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I have a question for any of you all. I asked it once before, but it must have been lost in the controversy:

I read something or saw something on the boob tube about a vote in Massachusetts being "stalled" or of the vote on same sex marriage not happening when it should have, or somethin'. Obviously I am unclear on this and what it was about. Who stalled what vote? What was the detail of that vote? Anybody?

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Originally posted by Abigail:

I've read a number of arguments which propose the idea that homosexuals seem to want "special treatment" by requesting the right to marry each other. Tne argument is homosexuals have the right to marry if they choose, just like everyone else, as long as they choose a partner of the opposite sex.

Ok, let's replace homosexuals with race. Say bi-racial marriages were illegal, you are only allowed to marry people of the same race. Is this equality? Everyone can still get married, right? The only rule is you cannot marry someone of a different race. Nothing wrong with that is there?


You are comparing an essential element to a non-essential one. The essence of the union we call marriage is gender, specifically the ability, under normal circumstances, with no outside assistance, for the partners in such a union to procreate. A typical healthy male and a typical healthy female, in normal sexual interaction, will procreate. That is true, regardless of race, intelligence, economic condition, hair color, or any other trait or condition not related to gender. It is precisely because of the probability that male-female sexual intercourse will result in children being born that there even is such a thing as marriage. It is also precisely because of that likelihood that close relatives may not marry.

Let’s assume that homosexual interaction is every bit as normal as heterosexual interaction. If it ever becomes so that normal sexual interaction between two typical healthy males or two typical healthy females is likely to result in children being born, then gender will no longer be an essential element and your comparison will be valid.

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Long Gone, this is, once again, the most basic and logical reason for the American people to utilize our powers as voters to stop this ridiculous charade known as "same sex marriage". I think it was you who said it in more detail earlier on, and it was very intelligently presented, and certainly not "hateful" nor "homophobic". Great additional point about first cousins not being allowed to marry because any procreation there could very well result in a child with screwed up genes, because, marriage is considered a preferred status because of the procreation factor.

And...........it also don't line up with the Good Book...

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Originally posted by Jonny Lingo:

I have a question for any of you all. I asked it once before, but it must have been lost in the controversy:

I read something or saw something on the boob tube about a vote in Massachusetts being "stalled" or of the vote on same sex marriage not happening when it should have, or somethin'. Obviously I am unclear on this and what it was about. Who stalled what vote? What was the detail of that vote? Anybody?


I believe the item in question was proposed legislation and/or state constitution amendment on same-sex marriage.

What I saw on CNN (the pinkos!) icon_biggrin.gif:D--> was that debate on the issue has been cut off until something happens next month.

I don't know any specifics of proposals and/or status of pending consensus.

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Rocky......the only reason people dabate over this issue is because they are really afraid to stand and speak ! Everyone is always afraid of hurting someones feelings but so often the only feelings they are really hurting is their own! I think the non- gays should continue standing on their soap box yelling out how wrong it is and let the gays stand on their's and yell out how right it is and let's see who wins. I think sooner or later they (tha gays) are gona fall of'n their soap box into tha wild blue yonder! And I sure hope it ain't in my neighborhood during fishing season...we might use em' fer spoonbill bait.

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"You are comparing an essential element to a non-essential one. The essence of the union we call marriage is gender, specifically the ability, under normal circumstances, with no outside assistance, for the partners in such a union to procreate."

The logic doesn't work for me Long Gone. There are many heterosexual couples who do not wish to have kids but still wish to marry. There are also many who cannot have kids the old fashioned way, but chose to either adopt or use another method to have children. Likewise there are homosexual couples who do not wish to have kids and there are homosexual couples who chose to either adopt or use another method to have kids.

To every man his own truth and his own God within.

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So hey Treffor. Yous gotta problem with the public being informed as to what is on the docket? I sure hope not...

Of course not. But please take an f out of my name it's Trefor, not Treffor. In Welsh a single f is pronounced as a v, two ffs are pronounced as an f anim-smile.gif

I am against anything that tries to sneak through by default. But the Bush election fiasco does indicate that there can be problems about how people read what is on the docket and how election officials read them afterwards. I don't know what was put on in Alaska, nor if several questions were put on the paper at one go. The clearer and more separately and understanable each question is the better. I also know that way things are phrased can affect how people vote also. This is a general observation rather than a specific one.

There was a proposition in California back in the Harvey Milk era that would have effectively caused all gay teachers to be sacked but it wasn't clear from reading it that this would be the effect. The gay community had to come up with oceans of publicity about it in order to make people aware of the implications and as a result the proposition was defeated.

So attempts at concealment are not one-sided.

If there was a question such as:

"Do you believe that marriage should be defined as one man and one woman?" then no doubt many would go for that.

But if the question was added:

"If so, do you believe that alternative civil arrangements should be made for those who do not fit this definition?"

You might get another result.

The fact that people may for one thing does not mean that they are against another.

Trefor Heywood

"Cymru Am Byth!"

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Maybe some poof in Her Majesty's Army can make a casual pass at his straight roomie, or stare at his straight roomie's nice a$$ and get away with a casual "sorry, mate, it's not my thing," but I can guarantee that if that happened here in a US Army barracks, there would be a "blanket party" scheduled for that evening with the poof as the guest of honor.

I agree with you that the USA does have some way to go in this area.

Once of my favourite films is A few Good Men regarding Code Red situations and how Top Brass connived in it. But part of progress is the exposure of such situations.

Not all Americans are Rednecks living out in the boondocks and rearguard actions have a limited timescale. The different concepts of what America is and should be will no doubt carry on competing for attention.

This thread is but one example.

Trefor Heywood

"Cymru Am Byth!"

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Trefor

Im sorry our college boys do not go into combat . and they are often exempt from the draft .

We do have types and nontypes but our process is one of the people and who speaks is one issue , as well as who is educated and yes who has the money . California just elected a movie star !

You have to be involved in your own community your own vote here we have to be informed.We listen to our voice and do our representitives, or things change. Sadly some are apathetic. I do not trust human judgements as a solutions to the countrys issues many of us refer to God for His will be done. this is what I believe is the essence of the American Sspirit and what will never die, it truly is In God we trust.

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ok lets try again

Massachusetts Marriage Debate Dead Ends

by Gary Schneeberger, editor

SUMMARY: Lawmakers end two-day, 18-hour session with more

work to do on preserving the traditional definition of

marriage.

BOSTON -- The Massachusetts Legislature ended more than 18

hours of debate over two days early this morning without

arriving at a decision on allowing their constituents to

have a say in how marriage is defined in the Bay State.

Lawmakers adjourned the constitutional convention that

began Wednesday, during which time they were to consider

the Marriage Affirmation and Protection Amendment, just

after midnight without actually ever discussing that

measure. In fact, liberals ensured the session ended in

gridlock by launching a filibuster for the last hour of

Thursday's debate.

The convention is scheduled to reconvene March 11 to

continue consideration of how best to answer last

November's Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court (SJC)

ruling that denying homosexual couples marriage licenses

violates the state constitution.

Speaker of the House Thomas Finneran, considered an ally

of pro-family activists on this issue, said it's not

surprising a final resolution has yet to be reached.

"No one should expect that decisions of this magnitude

would be made casually or quickly," he said. "Our efforts

will continue."

But Ron Crews, president of the Massachusetts Family

Institute and chief spokesman of the Coalition for

Marriage, said he was "very disappointed" that lawmakers

have at least temporarily ignored the thousands of people

who have made it clear they want to vote to protect the

traditional definition of marriage as the union of one

man and one woman.

"A lot of citizens are going to wake up (today) very upset

because their legislators haven't done what they were

elected to do," Crews told CitizenLink. "This was very

clearly an attempt by the (Legislature's) leadership to

prevent members of this body from voting on the 'Ma & Pa.'

"

Not only was the 'Ma & Pa' -- the colloquial name for the

Marriage Affirmation and Protection Amendment -- not voted

on, it wasn't even discussed. Instead, debate over the

course of the convention's two days centered on four

alternative proposals, three of which were voted down by

slim majorities of the joint session of the House and

Senate. Passage of amendment language would be the first

step to a statewide ballot question in 2006.

Each of the alternative measures mentioned in some fashion

civil unions -- either explicitly creating them as the

equivalent of traditional marriage in the constitution or

noting that the Legislature could, at a later date, choose

to enact them separately. Such efforts were designed to

appease pro-gay pressure groups and lawmakers who support

special rights for homosexuals, who contended that the Ma

& Pa, by simply restricting marriage to the union of a man

and a woman, would forever outlaw any legal recognition of

same-sex unions by any other name.

Two civil-unions proposals -- one from Finneran (which

said the Legislature would consider such arrangements at a

later date) and one from Senate President Robert

Travaglini (which would have created civil unions in the

constitution), were defeated Wednesday; a third, from Rep.

Philip Travis, the sponsor of the 'Ma & Pa,' was defeated

103-96 on Thursday.

Ironically enough, homosexual activist groups opposed all

three proposals, arguing that anything less than full

marital rights left them as victims of discrimination.

Travis, whose compromise proposal simply would have said

that nothing in the bill would "require or prohibit civil

unions in Massachusetts," grew increasingly frustrated as

Thursday wore on and it became clear his colleagues were

moving toward adjournment without agreeing to put any

measure before the voters.

"I will not you get off the hook on the question of

marriage," he vowed in a speech from the floor of the

House chamber. "You will not escape the wrath of the

general public. You will not be able to face them when you

go back home."

The only constituents lawmakers had to face inside the

State House, in the immediate wake of their vote to

adjourn, was a throng of nearly 200 homosexual activists

who spent the majority of the day Thursday clogging the

main hallway outside the House chamber while chanting

slogans like "No Discrimination" and singing such songs as

"The Star-Spangled Banner" and "This Land is Your Land."

Pro-family activists, who gathered in impressive numbers

Wednesday, were in short supply Thursday -- their absence

explained by one protest organization as a function of

their only being able to take one day off of work to

monitor the proceedings. A handful prayed quietly in the

State House basement.

Had they been paying attention to the chaos upstairs, much

of what they would have heard would have surely upset

them. Lawmakers favoring full marriage rights for

homosexuals chewed up the lion's share of Thursday's

debate time, equating the denial of such rights to

everything from the enslavement of blacks to the policies

of Nazi Germany to the moral milieu of the novel "The

Scarlet Letter." An openly lesbian representative

philosophized on how marriage, historically, has been an

"evolutionary creation." And another gay-marriage

supporter questioned the wisdom of letting the people vote

on such an emotionally charged issue, noting that when

Pontius Pilate tried that approach the people demanded he

free Barabbas instead of Jesus.

One of the sole bright spots for those with a traditional

view of marriage and family was Rep. Marie Parente,

D-Milford, one of the senior members of the House, who

chided fellow lawmakers for saying that it was improper to

debate the issue from a religious perspective. In fact,

stories about racism and sexism and all sorts of other

-isms, she said, only underscore the need for God.

"Men fail -- that's why we need to talk about God once in

awhile," she explained. "When I was a child, there was a

guy who went to school with me every day, and He never

failed me. But I'm not even supposed to say His name to

you in here."

When Parente and her colleagues reconvene the

constitutional convention next month, the matter before

them will be a fourth civil-unions compromise measure, one

that establishes such arrangements as providing "entirely

the same benefits, protections, rights and

responsibilities that are afforded to couples married

under Massachusetts law." That's language the Coalition

for Marriage cannot support, Crews said, although he added

he has some hope Travis' original amendment might still be

heard.

"We now have a recorded vote on this matter, so we know a

little better now who is with us and who we need to talk

to," he said. "We have some work to do over the next

month, but I believe that this will be a wake-up call to

some people out there who are concerned about the family."

TAKE ACTION: It is more important than ever that the

members of the Massachusetts Legislature here from Bay

State residents about the importance of preserving the

traditional definition of marriage.

1) Call and e-mail Massachusetts state lawmakers and tell

them to let the people vote on the Marriage Affirmation

and Protection Amendment. If you live in Massachusetts,

you can compose an e-mail that will be sent to your

members of the Legislature at:

http://capwiz.com/fof/mail/oneclick_compose/?alertid=4194006

All Americans, though, have a stake in this issue, because

if the court's decision stands, homosexual couples from

any state who receive marriage licenses in Massachusetts

could demand that their home states recognize those

so-called marriages. So, no matter where you live, if you

want to send e-mail to Massachusetts lawmakers. You can do

that at:

http://www.family.org/cforum/feature/A0028893.cfm

You will be taken to a list of e-mail addresses you can

copy and paste into an e-mail, allowing you to reach every

legislator with one e-mail. Additionally, Massachusetts

residents and all Americans should also call the state's

lawmakers. To reach a lawmaker's Capitol office, call the

Capitol switchboard at 617-722-2000 and ask for the

senator or representative by name. You can find district

office phone numbers at:

http://www.family.org/cforum/feature/A0028892.cfm

2) You also can contact your U.S. congressman and senators

and urge them to support a marriage-protection amendment

to the U.S. Constitution. For complete information about

the Federal Marriage Amendment, including sample e-mails

you can send to your elected officials in light of last

Tuesday's court ruling in Massachusetts, please see the

Stop Judicial Tyranny Action Center:

http://www.family.org/cforum/judicial_tyra...tion.cfm?pt=fma

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Gary Schneeberger

Editor

Pete Winn

Associate Editor

Trish Amason

Editorial Coordinator

Peter Brandt

Director, Issues Response

Tom Minnery

Vice President, Public Policy

Don Hodel

President and CEO, Focus on the Family

Dr. James C. Dobson

Founder and Chairman, Focus on the Family

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Ok Trefffor,

I understand what you mean about cleverly worded propositions on ballots. My wife and I had to really study a predator control (wolves) proposition. Initially, we thought we should have voted "yes" on it, but the more we studied it, we found that if we had voted "yes", had that propsition ended winning as a yes vote, the hunting of wolves for the sake of predator control in certain areas would have been outlawed. As it was, the "no's" won, and our wolf control program in McGrath and along the Nelchina River is finally underway. About thirty wolves have been taken so far..

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