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To prevent a further derail of the Inerrancy thread, which has already been derailed by a discussion about Intelligent Design (or not), can I pose this question: Do you think there is life elsewhere in the universe? Life in its many forms is so very diverse on this tiny planet. It thrives in temperatures both way too hot and way too cold; or in environments way too full of gasses that have previously been deemed unsupportive of life or too lacking in what has been considered necessary to life… If “create” means to bring into being that which was not there before – is that restricted to this planet? To this solar system? Could not life have been created (or evolved, if you prefer) on Planet Zog on the other side of the universe (not that there is much likelihood of us ever knowing for certain)? There may – or may not – be life on Mars or any other planet on our solar system – but do you think that precludes life outside our solar system? Answers on the back of your table napkins please! And no, wait staff needn’t accompany this discussion with David Bowie’s “Life on Mars?” which I refrained from adding. You may however consume a Mars bar whilst considering your response.

Linda, you forgot the one who has the piece of string. Can't forget that!

There are some threads that started out quite interesting but have deteriorated to name calling and gone so far off topic that I simply can't be bothered. So if anything interesting or illuminating was said - it's been lost, at least to me. Kids, go fight outside in the playground. Leave the forums to the ones who can speak civilly. Is it my turn to get roasted now? Wait a moment while I grab an asbestos suit.

Eyes, I'd like to hear your angel story too. Would you like perhaps to start a thread on Angel Awareness? Others may have good stories to add too.

*Make sure I know where all the money goes. Often pay by plastic even for small amounts, so that I can see on my bank statement where I've been spending. *Cycle as much as possible. *Built a garden and am now growing my own veg. Surpluses (later in the year) will be frozen. *Freecycle (in and out) as much as possible. Try to meet the other person half way if possible. *Turn off unnecessary lights. *Have replaced ordinary incandescent light bulbs with longlife ones *Raid chairty shops (the modern-day plurality palace) for clothes and unimportant household stuff (lampshades??) *Got broadband not dial-up (now I can enjoy the Cafe much more!!!!) *Give male friends haircuts (easy if you have a hair clipper) - saves them some money Have never used a dryer (prefer outside). Prefer to make own lunch rather than to buy out. (edited coz it managed to double post somehow)

Mark, you're right, sorry, I forgot that and read in the forbidden part... hehehe But Shaz, you must know that revelation cannot be analyzed, only ascertained. Analyzing the whims of TWI...really! The "spiritual perception and awareness" seemed to promote more finding a devil spirit under every rock (or in every person) rather than seeing the Godly side (could we say, positive?) of spirituality. Everybody (okay, a little exaggeration) saw devil spirits; how many saw angels or spirits acting on God's behalf? 2 Kgs 6:17 And Elisha prayed, and said, LORD, I pray thee, open his eyes, that he may see. And the LORD opened the eyes of the young man; and he saw: and, behold, the mountain was full of horses and chariots of fire round about Elisha. And that's not because we're "Athletes of the Spirit" now (forgetting Eph 6, of course) - it's that the teaching ceased being focused on God...what you look at, you become...remember that?

Yes, the truth certainly was separated. Left us with only error. An interesting one, this. When I was out Lightbearers (3 times, but one time the whole in rez Corps was considered abject failures, so they threatened to bin all of us but later sent us out again to do better) - anyway, lots of people came back with these tales of devil spirits they had seen or exorcized or what have you. Me, I didn't see any of that. Dealt with my own challenges, got on doing what we were supposed to be doing, didn't see anything particularly unusual. I wondered if God had left me out of something or I was a real spiritual dullard. I don't now; now I wonder what kind of hysteria or desire to please had infected those who did experience these things that they claimed to have seen. Or whether they were just plain lying. This thread has mused on gray areas. The more time I've been "out", the more I've become aware in a real way (not just having read them) of the many scriptures that say the opposite of other scriptures TWI revered. In other words, it's NOT "one size fits all." A big one they NEVER discussed and only hinted at, in passing, in PFAL with the "three fingers pointing back at you" analogy (which analogy was just part of the "hook"to fool you into thinking what a thoughtful and careful ministry this was) is this one: Mt 7:3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? 4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye. Just think how different things might have been had this become one of the Corps retemories!

This is the only diet I've ever tried and I did it for a month or so because I really wanted to get into a dress I'd bought. And for a few months before. I'd slothed around and not taken my usual exercise but continued to eat as if still vigorously exercising. I was shocked at how fast the weight disappeared, including that little football that sits just below the belt (!). I am not naturally a fat person and have weighed pretty much the same since I was about 20 - well I weighed 9 1/2 stone before I went in the Corps, put on an extra 8lb there and got to 10 stone (140 lb) and thought my face looked better at that. So that's where I hover, give or take 8lb. What I missed on the Atkins diet was eating fresh fruit, of which I eat loads, but apart from berries the dieter can't eat much fruit especially in the early stages. From what I've heard, the carbo promoters have been hijacked by the flour and sugar producers. So what are they going to promote? Carbs, one way or the other. It might not be so good for other things, though depending on the state of one's arteries. But then, diabetes from too many carbs, or furred-up arteries from too much fat...choose your poison.

This thread as I understand it is not so much about abuse but how one feels when one's own report of abuse is not acknowledged and worse, "proof" is required by some posters. To those posters who STILL express doubt, can I suggest you consider what circumstantial evidence is? And what is a "pattern of behavior"? Legally, those also can also be taken into consideration when considering the veracity of accusations. Proof, in effect. The tales of abuse of various kinds - spiritual, physical, emotional, everything - are far too wide over far too long a period to be discounted. Either that, or there are a heck of a lot of liars and fantasists who post on this site. Cake: it is VERY healing to realise - it wasn't just you. It was you and him and her and those people over there. It's not that misery likes company; it's acknowledging that what happened actually did happen; and that you were not to blame. It wasn't a one-off targetted at you, but part of a general pattern. Let it out, then you can let it go. It's still a part of your past but its hold on you will be weakened. You keep shining that light and exposing the wicked works! Most people here are friends and on your side. DWBH: thanks for the further miserable bit of TWI history. The more that's exposed, the more shocking it is. To think that at one time, I really believed that kids were raised in the nurture and admonition of the Lord - in loving kindness and tenderness... (scream)

A lot of archaeological data does not align with the chronology of the Bible either. Nor do "documentary records" that exist in other contemporary cultures. Does that make the Bible untrue? In error rather than inerrant? Maybe in some things our all-too-finite understanding are lacking. Once people believed that this planet was the center of the universe and everything revolved around it, quite literally. This was based on their Biblical understanding. It was also believed that the Earth was completely flat and there was an "edge" some place that might be fallen off. Yet that does not negate the fact that this round planet is actually here and so far as we are currently aware is the only planet capable of supporting life (as we know it). And the further study now available means that anyone holding to those old beliefs today would be laughed at. Rather than looking at the Bible as an inerrant [historical] record, we really have to face up to it being, in fact, not being wholly accurate. That leaves us free to examine the truth or otherwise of what we might call "the heart behind the words". Larger truths, not myths, folklore, or misattributions. Some events are compressed or symbolic. In the same way that a good historical novel can bring life to the bare facts of a period of time, so the Bible can bring "life" to the lives of people in and through whom God worked. If you've prayed for and seen the power of God at work - you know that there's something there. This planet and we ourselves aren't just some cosmic accident. We need to understand God and the Bible bigger, wider, and deeper. {For the avoidance of doubt: I am not saying that the Bible is fiction!) edited for grammar

Hey Cindy! Can I have some of that, too, please?

Please carry on! This is something I myself am still wrestling with. In a professional sphere where critical thinking skills are vital, all mine are (even now) still not very sharp. At one time immediately post-TWI, they were completely out of the window but they really need honing. Mine were crushed by being told, every time I asked a question, "You're leaning to your own understaning/that's five senses stuff." T-Bone has done a lot of stuff about this and has made some good recommendations in the past which I am following through on. No doubt he will post later on this thread. I found a book in my local library called something like Do you know what you think? which had lots of yes/no answers and then analyzed logical fallacies and moral/ethical dilemmas. It was very good and there is an associated website - if I find it, I'll post.

John 15:13 Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. So, if you willingly sacrifice yourself - say, you are the last in a dangerous place, "holding the fort" while your friends/colleagues escape, knowing that you yourself would not escape but that death was certain - would that be suicide? What about a soldier in a war situation? What where someone is suffering from a terminal and very painful illness? If they manage to kill themselves and die a month before the illness would have killed them - is that a sin? TWI would say that they did not believe to be made whole. That seems a fatuous and belittling answer. Judas went out and "hanged himself" but there's no record that anyone jumped up and down and said, "devil spirits" - they just got on and did what they believed was necessary - appointing another to take his place. Back up a bit. Is despair a sin? Because that's why people commit (a "leading" word) suicide. Or not permitting one's burden to be shared, not talking about the problem? Would not a greater sin be not noticing someone's despair? If it is a sin, Jesus Christ died to take away the sins of the world. Of which suicide would be just one of trillions and gazillions. Does God "take" life? 1 Cor 15:24 Then cometh the end, when he (JC) shall have delivered up the kingdom to God, even the Father; when he shall have put down all rule and all authority and power. 25 For he must reign, till he hath put all enemies under his feet. 26 The last enemy that shall be destroyed is death. I thought death was an enemy of God's, not one of his blessings.

What I don't understand is why Doctrinal is hidden away in the dungeon like something to be ashamed of. It's not with the other forums like ATW or Open. This should be a great place to discuss in particular some of the stuff we were taught in PFAL that we are now turning over in our minds; and to discuss new stuff. But what I have seen is people who think they know it all or being superior; or people who are just derisive. And many who drag a subject Off Topic. It's hard to discuss some stuff within churches because they don't know where we're coming from and it doesn't fit their own theology so they think it's crazy anyway. Surely Doctrinal is part of the Cafe self-help group just as much as other forums? As Oakspear says (and he sits the other side of the Cafe from me), he wants to know how he got fooled, how he was reeled in by Wierwillism. Have we ceased questing after Truth [as we see it] and quest after Trash instead? (edited to add Oak's exact words)

Yes, Dot, I know you were joking But they still look like they're having fun. What was it, falling down drunk? Must be over the two-drink limit

Some interesting stuff on John Knapp's website. Did anyone see the article on Secondary Narcissism (what looks like a very honest post from John) and relate it to the immense desire of some ex-TWI leadership to set up their own little organizations? Is starting an anti-cult organization like starting one's own religious organization (= cult)? Which may well be what whoever started this thread was thinking about. Except that the former sometimes seeks control disguised as freedom (STFI); and the latter seems to be seeking freedom. http://knappfamilycounseling.com/2ndnarcissism.html

Hard to make friends, too, no skills left. TWI and no doubt other groups practised "mark and avoid" (M&A) where people were cast out with all sorts of horribly slanderous things said about them, often to their faces and always behind their backs. These people are terribly cut off, and may have gone through immense separation trauma, at least to begin with. This type of "lightbulb" doesn't want to change, it wants to get back in the box where it came from . Perhaps like your JW client. This lightbulb only knows it needs help coping with life as it has become. But no doubt you know that! PS no attributions, just help these people! :)

Is there something on TWI on the Knapp website? Posts suggest yes, but I can't see it. As well as the list of "problems" that people may suffer from - perversely, as well as difficulty in trusting, I found I became too ready to trust other Christians. You know, the sort of "instant friends" we got with TWI. Too open where being more circumspect might have been an advantage. John: You have some interesting links on your page. You might feel inclined to add the Cafe's address - or maybe just give it to any exTWI who approach you. The Cafe has been immensely healing to so many ex TWI people, to see that whatever they are dealing with really isn't just their problem but is common to many others over a long period of time. They are already well on the way to healing if they are seeking your help. Whatever it takes to get them sound-minded again... The recent leaver (especially involuntarily) may well consider you "possessed" by devil spirits and would never contact you.

Well, the Pentecostals are a jolly sight more animated than the SLOW (Singing Ladies of the Way). Have fun there if you go, Dot. Remember, "We worship one God/ Jesus is his name" so you might need to renew your mind a bit.

All the best in your new life, George. Enjoy whatever you find to do. :)

That might apply in that location. For the rest of us...it's just another day. Anyway, maybe the people in Washington UK are in an odd way celebrating the departure of the troublesome child, the colonies? (ducking for cover )

Welcome, you will find a lot of different opinions here and some that for the time being you may find difficult. You might find it helpful to PM JavaJane, who is also a recent escapee who was raised in TWI. You can send a PM by clicking on the name, or looking under My Controls near the top of the page.

Life assurance is always good for people who have dependants. Nothing can compensate for the loss of a spouse or parent, but there is no need to compound difficulties by adding financial problems. If a husband dies, leavinga wife with small children, the wife may not be able to work (especially if she hasn't had a paying job for a while) but she and the children still need to live. If a wife dies leaving a husband with small children, assuming he has a job, he may be able to use any funds to help pay for care for the children while he is at work. If anyone has a mortgage (gasp!), how will the debt be paid if there is only one income (or even no income)? No-one would wish their nearest and dearest to lose the house as well! The rest of the family may have to re-home in due course but that should not be forced upon them at a difficult time. If one is simply a single person with no dependants, life assurance would only benefit any beneficiaries under a will so you need to think who they are and why you would want them to benefit from your death. And then there is the person who is a millionaire (or better) who has so much money that it would be impossible to spend it all. Such a person (or their family) may not need life assurance. But posts here suggest that most visitors to the cafe are not in that category! Since you raise this question, can I just add one thing, only slightly off topic: Make a Will. Or if you have one, review it (review every 5 years or after every significant life change, anyway). Make sure that the people you want to have your "leavings" are the ones who will actually inherit. If you are living with someone you are not legally married to, this is especially important.

You might find it helpful as well to consider your own pre-TWI background. If that included verbal abuse or belittling, you have a harder pattern to get out of. If you had a kind and gentle upbringing, you have lots of happier experiences to review and understand that's the way it ought to have been. Remember that not all "unbelievers" are "copped out" or "possessed" and some of them are genuinely kind and compassionate.

(((Lucy))) Ugh. Guess they were just renewing their minds. Thanks for speaking out now.