Meh. I still call it "the ministry" out of habit. I never stop to consider the semantic implications. I'm sure there are lots of other non-cult words and phrases in our vocabularies that we never stop to analyse in-depth. I still call bandages "Band Aids" without much thought. I just don't worry about.
Whenever I watch the intro to an episode of Jeopardy, when Johnny Gilbert introduces Ken Jennings, I still am stuck on expecting him to say Alex Trebek.
It's a mental habit... of my expectation. IOW, don't beat yourself up about it Penguin2.
Thanks guys! I think my biggest surprise was thinking of Mark and Avoid! “The ministry” is frustrating but then when I am talking about it with other ex members it’s sort of like what else would I call it?
"Whenever I watch the intro to an episode of Jeopardy, when Johnny Gilbert introduces Ken Jennings, I still am stuck on expecting him to say Alex Trebek."
I get that, too.
"Also why do I still refer to the Way as “the ministry?” I catch myself doing that still and it frustrates me."
Then, stop doing it. Really. You're choosing the words in your head, and when and how you're using them. Make the decision as to what you're going to call them. Decades ago, I started calling them "twi" (no capitalization, no respect whether or not it's grammatical), and that's how I refer to them in posts or in conversation- unless I have to stop and make an exception, which is incredibly rare. Each time you do it, it gets easier to do it for the next time. You built ONE habit, now you're building a DIFFERENT habit. At first, you may make a mistake- or several- but keep at it. It will get easier over time.
I've had to learn Spanish, in a country where the pronunciation has differences from where I grew up in the US. One difference is very obvious. I made a point to practice it all the time. I made a few mistakes. After a few months, it became automatic, and I have to consciously make an effort to pronounce the sound "the old way." For that matter, the slang is different, and I adjusted to the local slang, and just remember the other slang for when I have to travel or "skype" with people. (I'm going to need a few more months to get used to terms other than "skyping" for videoconferencing.)
I call it "twi." If that doesn't work for you, pick a name you prefer. Have no idea what else to choose? Open a new thread and ask for suggestions. You should get a few interesting ones, hopefully several useful ones in between people who make a joke instead of helping. (It's a very unusual request, even if it's a simple one.) Then go through the thread and rank the results, and pick the one you like best.
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Meh. I still call it "the ministry" out of habit. I never stop to consider the semantic implications. I'm sure there are lots of other non-cult words and phrases in our vocabularies that we never stop to analyse in-depth. I still call bandages "Band Aids" without much thought. I just don't worry about.
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Whenever I watch the intro to an episode of Jeopardy, when Johnny Gilbert introduces Ken Jennings, I still am stuck on expecting him to say Alex Trebek.
It's a mental habit... of my expectation. IOW, don't beat yourself up about it Penguin2.
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Thanks guys! I think my biggest surprise was thinking of Mark and Avoid! “The ministry” is frustrating but then when I am talking about it with other ex members it’s sort of like what else would I call it?
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"Whenever I watch the intro to an episode of Jeopardy, when Johnny Gilbert introduces Ken Jennings, I still am stuck on expecting him to say Alex Trebek."
I get that, too.
"Also why do I still refer to the Way as “the ministry?” I catch myself doing that still and it frustrates me."
Then, stop doing it. Really. You're choosing the words in your head, and when and how you're using them. Make the decision as to what you're going to call them. Decades ago, I started calling them "twi" (no capitalization, no respect whether or not it's grammatical), and that's how I refer to them in posts or in conversation- unless I have to stop and make an exception, which is incredibly rare. Each time you do it, it gets easier to do it for the next time. You built ONE habit, now you're building a DIFFERENT habit. At first, you may make a mistake- or several- but keep at it. It will get easier over time.
I've had to learn Spanish, in a country where the pronunciation has differences from where I grew up in the US. One difference is very obvious. I made a point to practice it all the time. I made a few mistakes. After a few months, it became automatic, and I have to consciously make an effort to pronounce the sound "the old way." For that matter, the slang is different, and I adjusted to the local slang, and just remember the other slang for when I have to travel or "skype" with people. (I'm going to need a few more months to get used to terms other than "skyping" for videoconferencing.)
I call it "twi." If that doesn't work for you, pick a name you prefer. Have no idea what else to choose? Open a new thread and ask for suggestions. You should get a few interesting ones, hopefully several useful ones in between people who make a joke instead of helping. (It's a very unusual request, even if it's a simple one.) Then go through the thread and rank the results, and pick the one you like best.
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