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I grew up with football. My dad and brothers watched it on a regular basis. Us women, girls rented a tv just so we could watch something else. I even went to football games in school. Still don't see where the excitement is. Now basketball or baseball is a total different story. But I need to see that in real life not on the television.

Hey, I've never understood why men love football so much. All I see are bodies running around throwing footballs around. The bodies are nice to watch but knowing these guys usually makes lots of money and think they can do anything they want to because they 'think' they have power is sickening. So men tell me why football is so wonderful?

My dear ole buddy Tom Strange finally answers....... Someone actually asked me if I really do vacuum nakee..... I ain't tellin....

Johniam, your right its about the many hats or roles we play in society. I'm sorry for some that took it so deeply. Its a very on the surface writing. Shell, well that butte looks very real......

Cool that you got answers from it also. Hey Shell, I have to ask this Who in the heck is that pic of? I hope its not you? :unsure:

Ok David, it was written with paragraphs and double spaced but somehow when sent on greasespot it didn't do that. Waysider, I totally understand, that is why this was so interesting to me. If anyone has a chance and is interested I strongly encourage you to take a sociology class. I understood a lot more about myself and how things were in twi. Why we allowed it to control us in some ways. It is ok to have many me's. Even though twi told me I was possessed I found that it is quite normal to be this way... Hey White dove, I've been busy with my many roles. When I've been on I've seen you either on the cell (which I don't want to use your minutes up) or you are sitting idle and not there. So, my dear friend, you better speak to me one of these days.... :P Thanks Shell!!!!! Johniam, I love to vaccuum nakee.

How Many Me’s are there? I believe that there are several different roles that each person plays every day in order to get along in society. The different roles we play we have to conform to that social group that we are in at that time. For instance, I have different roles I play everyday. The roles change who I am depending on the responsibility and others that I’m around. My roles are mother, girlfriend, daughter, friend, employee, neighbor, and a Christian, to name of few. Each role that I play in life changes my responsibility allowing me to be different in those roles. We all believe that we are one person, and we are but there are so many facets to that one person in order for us to get along within our own societies that we may be in. And in these roles our responsibilities change. First and foremost I’m a mother. When I spend time with my family, in this role I’m a leader. I’m a single parent and make decisions for my children. I have to be responsible as I have two children that are dependent on me. I have to make decide on if we spend family time together, clean the house, whatever is needed. I’m the role model that is looked up to. So I need to act accordingly what is expected of me as a parent. My expectations of what my role is are from what society has allowed us and what my own expectations are. As a parent I have to be responsible enough to have a home to live in, pay my bills so we have water and electricity. To make sure that my children are fed and have clothes to wear. As a parent I have another role I have as a parent is to be accountable to others to make sure my children get the education they need. So, I go to meetings when asked at school to help my children grow responsibly. I also am responsible to teach my children what good roles they can play in society and help and guide them through their growing years. Although my daughter is in college this year and my son is in high school I still play the same role but it is different as they have gotten older. I’m still responsible in most ways but they are also becoming more independent. As a mother I have to learn to let go. As a role of a girlfriend, I am totally different than being a mother. I don’t have to make all the decisions. I can be playful, mature, immature, demanding, and carefree if I care to. I have someone that I can go to the movies with, go out to dinner, or just stay home and relax with. I don’t have to be a role model. As a girlfriend I can have the kid in me if I need to or I can be a responsible adult, depending on the situation. And what the expectations of my boyfriend would be. My boyfriend and I have learned to conform to each other or it wouldn’t work. As a daughter, my role is different in the fact that if I chose, I can be a dependent as my parents were always the ones in charge. When I’m with them I don’t have any responsibilities except to be myself. I can go to my parents without judgment and be able to get advice or any help that I may need for me to play the other roles in society that I am. If I have a problem I can go to them and be a kid once again. I know they will still love me and except me for who or what I am. This makes me feel at home and comfortable as a daughter. However, as I get older, this role is also changing as my parents are changing and are becoming more vulnerable. I see myself in a couple of years switching our roles as me becoming their parent. Another role that I have is the role as a friend. I have a best friend that I have had for 41 years. We met at 9 years old and have been best friends ever since. She is someone that I can spend time with and there are no expectations of either of us. We can share anything and even though we are opposite of one another we still can give total support of each other. We have no judgment of each other and have always been there. If I ever needed help that I felt that I didn’t want my parents to know she would be there for me just as I would be there for her. Her family is like a second family to me. I can call her mother up and spend time with her similar to my own mother. In a role as an employee, I am responsible to my employers to be honest and work the best I can. I don’t play the role of a boss but I do have responsibilities as a person in management. In order to be a good employee I have to make sure that when I’m on their time that I’m professional at all times and doing what is asked of me. I make sure I wear the clothes that are asked of me. I’m also responsible while at work of a lot of money and have to make sure that the money is where it is suppose to be at all times. I’m in locked doors with the camera on at all times so I have to make sure that even though I may not be with someone but I am to be professional at all times. In the role as a neighbor, I make sure that I’m friendly at all times and if needed I am there for them. I am responsible to keep my yard clean and mowed. I make sure my children keep their music down and make sure my dogs are kept in my yard and not barking constantly. With my neighbors I don’t show any negativism and always keep them at a neutral level. My neighbors are not my friends but I will be cordial to them in order to get along in the neighborhood. I don’t allow them to know the real me, just as a nice friendly person. The reason for this is that we do live close to the neighbors and I don’t want them into our lives all the time. It would be hard to get away if the friendship doesn’t work out. I’m quite the opposite when I play the role as a Christian. I go to church and am friendly. I am mostly quiet and positive and at times am reflective. If there needs to be something done I may volunteer my time. I don’t share too much with others as I don’t feel comfortable with others knowing my personal life. I feel if others at church know me too well that they will consider me a person that is not what a Christian should be and I don’t want to be judged. As a Christian I play a person that can be looked up to. When I was younger I used to be in what was considered a cult. I was told how or what to do things and was controlled in most of my aspects of life. I decided the role I play as a Christian will not allow me to become controlled with how I am as a person or if I give all my money to an organization ever again in my life. I don’t want Christians to know me because then that will allow them to control and hurt my family and myself. As Christian I’m expected to go to church. This is what I think my society is expects of me if I play the role of Christian. In all these roles I have I play a different dimension of myself. I have the same ethical beliefs, same fears, same goals, but I play the role that works for me in my role depending on who I’m with. For instance, I will not act as an employee in my home or when I’m at church but I may act as a girlfriend or a parent when I’m home or at church. So the different dimensions may or may not cross each other depending on what role I need to play at any given moment. Society can be complicated but for me as an individual but to survive as a culture my different roles change so that I can work with the different responsibilities I may have in life.

Cowgirl that was good too. I am amazed how wonderful it is to be myself also. I love to be able to speak my mind when I want to. Or be quiet because I want to. I can' t believe how much I worried about other people and what they thought of me. Or worried that my house was messy. Now I think that is for the young...let them worry. If they don't like what they see its their problem... How wonderful to be free of all that!!!!!

Your so welcome!!!!!!! When I read it I thought wow how did this person know I needed this?

A family member sent this to me today and thought that some of you would enjoy reading this. The other day a young person asked me how I felt about being old. I was taken aback, for I do not think of myself as old. Upon seeing my reaction, she was immediately embarrassed, but I explained that it was an interesting question, and I would ponder it, and let her know. Old Age, I decided, is a gift. I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror (who looks like my mother!), but I don't agonize over those things for long. I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I' ve aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant. I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging. Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60&70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will. I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old. I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things. Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compas sion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect. I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver. As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong. So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have & nbsp;become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day. (If I feel like it) MAY OUR FRIENDSHIP NEVER COME APART ESPECIALLY WHEN IT'S STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART! MAY YOU ALWAYS HAVE A RAINBOW OF SMILES ON YOUR FACE AND IN YOUR HEART FOREVER AND EVER!

I have been known to vacuum nakee...

Yes, he did leave. I was his partner for one of the classes during that time. I've always wondered what happened after he left. He was a great guy and I really liked him. Please if you do hear from him or anything, would you let me know? Thanks!!!!

Sorry it took so long to respond....I totally say that this is one of the best movies I have seen for a very long time. I was very enthralled the whole time crying, watching. Jodi Foster does an excellent acting on this.

Na Na Na!!!!!! I got free tickets for a previewing of the movie. The studios reserved a theatre........We are very excited!!!!

I wanted to point out for some who thinks that this was just a bridge that this is a bridge of many bridges that they are finding out are about ready to go here in Minnesota. And too its not only affected all of us with this tragedy it has also affected the shipping industry. We can't get the ships down the Mississippi. Its stopped to a standstill. We do a lot of business here on the Mississippi. So not only the tragedy of lost lives, but also other bridges are about ready to go, and our shipping is at a standstill. Now our wonderful governer wants to put a gas tax on us Minnesotans to pay for the bridge. I would rather have tax on cigarettes or alcohol. Not more on gas!!!!

I'm here and yes I do live in the metro area. I heard it and thought it was thunder. It really is horrible. Dot, I'm pretty sure that Griz and Anna live in this area too.

Wow, I don't come on here for ages because of my computer and the first thing I see is that Raf is getting married..... How exciting Raf. I'm sure all will go well. Have a happy married life and congrats!!!!

I have never liked Alec Baldwin but I'm sure there is more to the story than what we know. And if we have only heard part of it there is sure another part of the story. Too bad the kid is caught in the middle. But usually if the kid is with one parent all the time and that parent is nasty about about the other parent then you can bet that the kid really acts up because she is being told things a kid should never be involved in. I went through it with my son when I was trying to get custody. When he came to visit one time I had to throw him out because of his behavior (and I was not nice). Of course it was used against me, but I could not tolerate his disrespect. Now he lives with me and with counseling he has had his eyes opened and realized I'm really not a bad person after all. He was told so many things about me that were so untrue!!!!! So, I can't except that its one sided here. It sounds like some things are being manipulated and he lost his temper.

I'm bringing this up top so that 9th corps goes down....lol

Were they from Ohio?

Hey Rick, I'm sorry that you were hurt and are still hurting. There are certain people that hurt me too. I'm sorry it was Dave that hurt you. I knew him before he did anything with twi except the PFAL. TWI changed a lot of us. I know I hurt a couple of people myself and it hurts now to think that I could do such things without feeling for the other person. Last year I got an e-mail from someone that I did not get along with. In fact that person at times treated me with great hatred. After all these years that person wrote a long letter to me with the best apology. It was very freeing. I hope and pray that if it isn't Dave that does the apologies that someone else that hurt will. I think the freeing part for me was to realize that this person had been hurt from others too. We were all thinking we were doing the 'best' for God. I know at times I did not see the whole picture. What I'm trying to say Rick is that I totally understand how you feel....

I knew them way back when when the kids were very tiny. Lola was the sweetest person and Dave was very funny!!!! Too bad that twi changed them. That is so sad!!! And Dave would be more in his 60's by now. Early 60's anyways.

I love craigslist also. I usually go to the free section and the pet section. I've gotten free fencing for my kennel, carpet, entertainment center. All in excellent shape. I also go to freecycle.org its pretty good too, depending on the area that you live. Freecycle I used to furnish my daughter's new place a couple of years ago. And I mean everything.....kitchen stuff, washer and dryer, furniture through out for a three bedroom....items too numerous to mention. I love the recycle stuff through craigslist and freecycle. I even found a store that has very nice clothing for $2.00 a bag and some times during the year the third bag was free. I love cheap stuff!!!!! I've gotten cheap in my old age for sure....

Well if living in sin is what I'm doing I am doing rather well after the institution of marriage. Sounds good to say living in sin or call someone an adulterous (personal to the one that is knows what I talking about, sorry). I hate it when people judge. Anyways, If you have known each other and have talked about this for years you already know the answer to that so go for it and enjoy. I would rather be with a man living in sin than be married to someone that is abusive. I wonder which one is good in God's eyes? Keeping the finances separated is a good idea and eventually your monies will go together if the relationship is still working. This way if you guys realize that living together is not it and to be friends instead then nothing is lost.

I remember who you are talking about dot. Wasn't the girl from the same area hung around with that him? I remember hanging out with I think the name is Hans or maybe jan and there was a girl. They both were so much fun. I don't think they were a couple at all just from the same area. We used to talk about how the women didn't shave....lol I"m sure there were other things we talked about though. I'm wondering if its the same guy. He had blond hair, very handsome, and a nice personality. I would really like to know if it was him too. Hard to believe that it would be but you never know I guess.