Rocky

This guy has an intriguing perspective.

Dude, you can make those statements, but they lack integrity. Whenever (yes, every time) anyone asks for clarification, you state they are twisting or spinning your words, as opposed to you trying to clarify so the reader might possibly come closer to understanding your intended message. Further, when a reader responds with what s/he does understand you to have intended to mean, you jump on them for intentionally misunderstanding... or "playing games with what I've said..." (rather than, "sorry, that's not what I meant. Let me see if I can present it another way that might make more sense to you") One seems to only be able to reasonably deduce that you are either toying with people here or are more dense than the densest diamond that's ever been found.

I am totally in AWE of your intellectual prowess. Nevertheless, you may have had a very hard time in fields related to psychology or psychiatry given your apparent difficulty with the communication process (i.e. listening skills).

Yes, it sounds fascinating. And yes, just pennies more than $7. Thanks.

Neither Manson nor that thread were in my conscious thinking at all. Frankly, when I received my daily Amazon Kindle deals email, the book was on sale that day for $1.99 (US). Few of the books on those emails interest me any more, but this one did. Of course, there have been discussions on GSC about "belonging" for years. But that's not all that's interested me about the subject. Back in the 1990s, I read books by the now late M. Scott Peck. His insight on life was tremendously enlightening for me. On this subject, he wrote Different Drum: Community Making and Peace. Really, my main concern is and was that people who leave twi face issues related to emotional support systems... belonging. That's Ms Agrawal's point exactly. But she has practical ideas on how people can find THEIR people... which may happen multiple times for anyone. Thank you very much Twinky, for sharing your story on this thread.

Yes, that's sad. But it's still a part of who you are. I hope you can embrace it and make it a part of your personal narrative to help others wherever they may be. In the 1990s, I was usually reluctant to disclose my association with twi. Eventually, for me, it no longer mattered. But now I can and do discuss my experience with people who are either cult survivors or concerned about cults (one particular political cult especially).

I (we) no longer BELONG either to or with The Way International. This is not the concept of being a "member of the organization." We know now that was reserved for a very small group and revolved around who got to make the decisions about how the ABS money was spent. We know now that was as far from a democratic or egalitarian notion as any organization could get. Instead, this is about the fact that many of us, in bunches of thread topics, have cited a sense of BELONGING as a big reason for why we associated with the people and fellowships of The Way. We've documented extensively the dark side of the group. Many of us acknowledged the/a good side too. A few of us have been unashamed of subsequent associations with other church or religious groups that have, in more ways than one given some meaning to our lives. Some of us found meaningful non-religious social organizations too. Twinky comes to mind quickly because of how she has described her comfort with her church group and the service she and her friends provide to people in various kinds of need where they live and serve. However it has played out, for many of us social groups -- not necessarily cultic in nature -- have made a huge difference in the meaning we've been able to embrace in our lives. Belonging is sometimes referred to as a sense of community. Inclusion rather than exclusion or isolation. (Even introverts like me need a social network) More importantly, leaving a group like TWI, even though we are fed up when we leave, is inherently fraught with emotional stress or sometimes trauma. I left twi more than three decades ago. To a significant degree, I've found my people. But this is a topic that can resonate with people throughout their entire lives. Anyway, all of this is to preface mentioning a book I'm reading now that might interest some others in our GSC community. There's a link in the previous sentence. But you might be able to find the book in your local public library. Obviously, I recommend it highly. Ms. Agrawal describes her journey of discovery and community and spells out how we ALL need community. I love the expression in the subtitle above "Find YOUR People." I'd be more than happy to discuss the subject further with anyone who cares to comment on this thread. Your stories of connecting, disconnecting, isolation and community are welcome.

Amen!

Or, if you respond better to a young pretty female voice (and face), try this one. She's got some good points. But note to the R&R crowd, there are three things she suggests doing BEFORE reconnecting with your purpose in life.

Bless their pea-pickin' little ol' hearts. What they need, in under three minutes...

Stephen King has written stories about that kind of thing.

I would argue that the people who fell for LRon's BS are no more gullible than we were to fall for VeePee's BS. Scientists have documented that every human is subject to getting conned at some time or other in their lives... aka universal gullibility. But I digress. Is that too much of a diversion from the original topic?

Seriously? Are you now suggesting that it's true just because two people you cited believed it? Ya know, this "discussion" is really devolving into the kind of circular nonsense that we got from Mike until his most recent exit... which was during tax season 2018.

You're just toying with me now.

Paints a picture where?

So, even when I ask you for clarification, you take issue with it? Asking for clarification, in the form of "is this what you mean... ?" is now "spin?" Oh, heck no. I don't think you're crazy. I think you're needlessly defensive and paranoid. So, how would YOU describe the process of "ascertaining spiritual information?"

I see what you did there. It's called "misdirection." Further, I concur with what Raf said!

If your standard/understanding of communication was even close to correct, I would have to say that you intentionally misunderstood. However, it isn't the correct standard. The correct response from you would be to ask for clarification, as in, "is this what you meant?" Because you didn't, that is probably why to you my response to you didn't make sense. My phrase "thought that pops into his/her head" isn't about the devil. It's about how the human mind operates. So, I have to ask for clarification. Are you saying that because you don't associate thoughts in a person's head with how the devil operates, you assume or suppose that when you get a thought that pops (appears, or however you'd like to characterize it) into your head, it must be from God?

Btw, there was nothing kinky about what I posted. If you read it as such, you own that perception. Was that (what I highlighted in bold) a request for clarification? I realize it wasn't framed as such, but to give you the benefit of the doubt, I had to ask.

Yes and yes. It was Halloween 1974. I was fellowshipping with a group led by a Christian chaplain at the base chapel. In walks a military wow, newly stationed at Lajes Field. It took until the next summer to get the PFLAP class together. Bob Warble worked in the local television broadcast center as an equipment tech. AFRTS (A-farts) Armed Forces Radio and Television Service. He and I shared a room in the airmen's quarters (barracks/dorm) eventually had at least three other guys join us for the class and then in august, we went to ROA75 and signed up for one year as MWOWs. John Almquist, Mike Hultberg, and John Miller. We had fellowship in the morning before work. I worked rotating shifts. At some point, we rented an apartment so all five of us could live together. We got a few others to fellowship with us and take the class. At one point, because my 1960 chevy station wagon had a twi bumpersticker, a couple who saw it had taken the class in the states. We had fun. Didn't have to deal with heavyhanded rules much. However, I had been saving my meager pay... after getting involved with twi, that stopped because I was shipping too much of my military pay to Ohio.

Ummm... Pamdalarryum, I was a military wow for two years while an airman (1975-Aug 1977). Stationed at Lajes Field, Azores. Otherwise, more or less unremarkable. I did go to Germany twice to meet with Limb coordinators (Simmons) once in Munster I think it was, and once for an advance where veepee showed up. The most memorable event was going to the sauna in the hotel and one of the young women there was completely naked. Also met a guy (Caucasian) that had spent some time witnessing in Teheran, Iran. He had interesting travel stories. But since it was more than 40 years ago, that's pretty much all the detail I can recall.

Wow! No matter how much anyone asks you for clarification of what you say in any given comment, the only response you seem to ever give is that the reader so asking is willfully refusing to get your point. And when you say so, you usually have some "arrogant meanness" in your response. So, how do you get off claiming anyone else is doing the projecting? Further, when you're faced with questions you seem to not know how to answer, you make statements like you end that comment with. Really, dude!

How quaint. I will grant (and have stated before) that there is something going on beyond what humans can perceive. In fact, there is anthropologically determined and documented evidence that humans have found hundreds, if not thousands of ways to define those "certain (invisible) realities." However, to give any credence to what you present (in bold, above), how do you propose to ascertain the veracity of said information received by alluded to certain invisible realities? By definition, the Judeo-Christian creation story and the surrounding stories (as set forth in The Bible as we know it) has as a major theme, right from the start, deception by a spiritual entity. So, how would one discern whether any given thought that pops into his/her head as being from the right source? Didn't Jesus himself even have to cope with that dilemma? Happy Easter.