psalmie -- we gave kity downers, from the vet, to our cats for the 8 hour drive from soCal to noCal 6 years ago...worked just fine. Ask your vet, if you see this before it's too late...
Thank you all for the hugs and prayers, this was a hard decision.
Allan, at first ya made me smile, but then I thought, "but I LOVE Kelly"
WW, I beleive that too, we've prayed for her--that she doesn't suffer with too much confusion and that someone will be willing to take her and do the extra work she needs.
All I can see right now is her little face, looking up at me from her carrier as they took her away. She was meowing with her big scared eyes, and I was holding onto the door of her carrier, crying. The guy had to tug a bit to take the carrier away. I hope I NEVER have to do that again. I came home and shut down--went to bed and cried and slept and cried--I had to hide from the kids, cuz my 7 yr old, Ben wanted to believe Kelly was really happy there with the new cat friends she'd made. :(-->
I think this is worse than when our old cat, Stella died. She was 14 years old and her heart gave out, we had to put her down because she was suffering.
I'll always remember our dog Tris, the first pet our family ever had -- a boxer that I remember (as a kid) as always having been there. Tris got old, and couldn't hardly move, and my folks had to make the decision to *put him down*.
My brother and I were around the same age as your eldest, Psalmie, when Tris was going to be put to sleep. I remember sitting by the fireplace with him, my Dad, and my brother. We gave him all the love we could for one more night, knowing that the next day he would be gone forever.
It ain't easy. It never is. "Family" walks in the house on four legs sometimes, instead of two. And you miss them just as much, when they are gone.
I 'm so sorry you've had to go through this. I know my animals are my hairy children. And it's a heart breaker when you have to give one up. I'm the one that cries when we lose one. So I understand where you are coming from. ((((psalmie and family)))) love tcat
Oh, Psalmie. :(--> I'm so sorry for you and your family. Those critters crawl right into our hearts and stay there forever. That's one of the hardest things we ever have to experience in our lives, imo, no matter how old one is. :(-->
Psalmie, my heart goes out to you. We had to put our 10 yr old cat to sleep about a month ago after she had developed a massive kidney infection. When they did the tests and took x-rays of her at the vet hospital, they saw she only had one functioning kidney - which had probably been the case her whole life. Not that she showed it, or ever had a problem urinating.
Not being a cat person, she had not been my first choice for a pet, but mom and daughter prevailed. Of course, you know who got stuck feeding her, taking her to the vet, and cleaning the cat box (thank God she went in the box - I would have had fits if she hadn't).
But you know how cats somehow burrow their way into your heart, even when you resist it. When she'd .... me off, I would call her "Asswipe" with a French-like pronounciation (az-WEE-pay)and threaten to shave her butt and make her walk backwards. She'd just blink at me with a look that said, "Iloveyoufeedmenow".
She was on my daughter's lap when they put her to sleep, and it was hard to tell who was crying harder.
You never think you would get that attached to an animal...and then you find out differently.
So sorry Psalmie! Please don't allow other folks judge you about your decision!
You are a caring animal caregiver!
I also know what you mean about the bills. I've known people who have spent thousands on their animals operations, something that I simply wouldn't be able to do right now should something happen.
However, I still wouldn't doubt myself for one second that I'm capable of taking the best care I can of an animal.
So God bless your heart for what you have given to His creatures.
Psalmmy my dear an you too Pat....I gots twenty six acres fer em to run on.....bring on tha cats....me place is sort of like a restin home fer ole' animals....me twenty six year old cat gets along fine around here, and yer always welcome here too! My best wishes fer you an tha cat....hope all works out fer ya......just box up up tha cat an snd it my way if'n ya can't come.....I'll see that its treated better than garfield
Thanks again, for all your comments and stories--I cry about other people's pets dying too! darn those little furry critters fer crawling into your hearts like they do! but I could never have a "petless" home--it would be missing some warmth. Kevlar, sorry for the empty hole in your home right now.
My boys keep talking about how kelly must be sooo happy in her new home by now. . . I pretend that she's in a new home to them, too, but I figure it isn't true-- I went to the website of the shelter and she's not listed as one of the cats up for adoption. I can't talk much to them about how much I miss her--glad I can come here to dump! I just dumped in an email to a friend, figuring this thread was on the second page by now!
My hubby was able to shut down his emotional attachment to her way back when we'd decided we were gonna take her there-- I couldn't--I tried to, as she'd peed in a box I had just packed, but then she did her little rolly-"lookatmeimcute" thingy a couple hours later and how could I be mad at her? (it helps when ya can't smell, I guess!)
Hawk, She wouldna been happy to run outside anyway-- she was a scaredy-cat! But we'll come run around yer 26 acres when we go through KY on our way to Mi from now on!
Steve: I guess it's something I wouldn't know unless I'd be put to the decision. I've seen unfortunate situations like Psalmies where people have spent some serious money on their animals, and they died.
Too sum it up, you do the best that you can do at the time the problem arises. And I applaud people who do spend that kind of money, but I can sure empathize with people who just can't do it at the time.
Of course people can go overboard both ways. I saw one couple who was keeping a dog alive through blood transfusions for well over a year when the poor thing really should have been put to sleep.
And I've heard of people who put down a cat because it cost 50 bucks for an ear infection it got.
Psalmie: So happy to hear it looks evident your kitty got a new home! And I know what you mean about a petless home. It's so cold!
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excathedra
i'm sorry (((((( psalmie ))))))
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I'm sorry, Psalmie and family.
You obviously gave Kelly a good home and life and loved her.
They sure become such a huge part of our family don't they?
Bless your hearts. Will keep in prayers.
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so sorry for you i know it is hard to do had to do it myself once
my prayers will be with you
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So sorry Psalmie and family...that is SUCH a hard decision to make.
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krys
The only thing you're guilty of is wanting to do the impossible. I don't see how you could have made any other decision.
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Allan
how about shipping her to Loy ?!
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psalmie -- we gave kity downers, from the vet, to our cats for the 8 hour drive from soCal to noCal 6 years ago...worked just fine. Ask your vet, if you see this before it's too late...
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Psalmie --- sorry to hear that.
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Will be keeping your kids in prayer, that they can get past this ok and quickly.
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dont stop yourself from grieving or the kids...
and by the way, I believe God cares about our pets too, and He has a way of aking care of their soul!
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Thank you all for the hugs and prayers, this was a hard decision.
Allan, at first ya made me smile, but then I thought, "but I LOVE Kelly"
WW, I beleive that too, we've prayed for her--that she doesn't suffer with too much confusion and that someone will be willing to take her and do the extra work she needs.
All I can see right now is her little face, looking up at me from her carrier as they took her away. She was meowing with her big scared eyes, and I was holding onto the door of her carrier, crying. The guy had to tug a bit to take the carrier away. I hope I NEVER have to do that again. I came home and shut down--went to bed and cried and slept and cried--I had to hide from the kids, cuz my 7 yr old, Ben wanted to believe Kelly was really happy there with the new cat friends she'd made.
:(-->
I think this is worse than when our old cat, Stella died. She was 14 years old and her heart gave out, we had to put her down because she was suffering.
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I'll always remember our dog Tris, the first pet our family ever had -- a boxer that I remember (as a kid) as always having been there. Tris got old, and couldn't hardly move, and my folks had to make the decision to *put him down*.
My brother and I were around the same age as your eldest, Psalmie, when Tris was going to be put to sleep. I remember sitting by the fireplace with him, my Dad, and my brother. We gave him all the love we could for one more night, knowing that the next day he would be gone forever.
It ain't easy. It never is. "Family" walks in the house on four legs sometimes, instead of two. And you miss them just as much, when they are gone.
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This is a heartbreaking decision that you had to make. I will mourn this loss with you.
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I 'm so sorry you've had to go through this. I know my animals are my hairy children. And it's a heart breaker when you have to give one up. I'm the one that cries when we lose one. So I understand where you are coming from. ((((psalmie and family)))) love tcat
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Oh, Psalmie.
:(--> I'm so sorry for you and your family. Those critters crawl right into our hearts and stay there forever. That's one of the hardest things we ever have to experience in our lives, imo, no matter how old one is. 
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Psalmie, my heart goes out to you. We had to put our 10 yr old cat to sleep about a month ago after she had developed a massive kidney infection. When they did the tests and took x-rays of her at the vet hospital, they saw she only had one functioning kidney - which had probably been the case her whole life. Not that she showed it, or ever had a problem urinating.
Not being a cat person, she had not been my first choice for a pet, but mom and daughter prevailed. Of course, you know who got stuck feeding her, taking her to the vet, and cleaning the cat box (thank God she went in the box - I would have had fits if she hadn't).
But you know how cats somehow burrow their way into your heart, even when you resist it. When she'd .... me off, I would call her "Asswipe" with a French-like pronounciation (az-WEE-pay)and threaten to shave her butt and make her walk backwards. She'd just blink at me with a look that said, "Iloveyoufeedmenow".
She was on my daughter's lap when they put her to sleep, and it was hard to tell who was crying harder.
You never think you would get that attached to an animal...and then you find out differently.
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RottieGrrrl
So sorry Psalmie! Please don't allow other folks judge you about your decision!
You are a caring animal caregiver!
I also know what you mean about the bills. I've known people who have spent thousands on their animals operations, something that I simply wouldn't be able to do right now should something happen.
However, I still wouldn't doubt myself for one second that I'm capable of taking the best care I can of an animal.
So God bless your heart for what you have given to His creatures.
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Oh, please. You'd spend thousands on Nico, in a heartbeat! and you know it!
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Psalmmy my dear an you too Pat....I gots twenty six acres fer em to run on.....bring on tha cats....me place is sort of like a restin home fer ole' animals....me twenty six year old cat gets along fine around here, and yer always welcome here too! My best wishes fer you an tha cat....hope all works out fer ya......just box up up tha cat an snd it my way if'n ya can't come.....I'll see that its treated better than garfield
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Thanks again, for all your comments and stories--I cry about other people's pets dying too! darn those little furry critters fer crawling into your hearts like they do! but I could never have a "petless" home--it would be missing some warmth. Kevlar, sorry for the empty hole in your home right now.
My boys keep talking about how kelly must be sooo happy in her new home by now. . . I pretend that she's in a new home to them, too, but I figure it isn't true-- I went to the website of the shelter and she's not listed as one of the cats up for adoption. I can't talk much to them about how much I miss her--glad I can come here to dump! I just dumped in an email to a friend, figuring this thread was on the second page by now!
My hubby was able to shut down his emotional attachment to her way back when we'd decided we were gonna take her there-- I couldn't--I tried to, as she'd peed in a box I had just packed, but then she did her little rolly-"lookatmeimcute" thingy a couple hours later and how could I be mad at her? (it helps when ya can't smell, I guess!)
Hawk, She wouldna been happy to run outside anyway-- she was a scaredy-cat! But we'll come run around yer 26 acres when we go through KY on our way to Mi from now on!
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Steve: I guess it's something I wouldn't know unless I'd be put to the decision. I've seen unfortunate situations like Psalmies where people have spent some serious money on their animals, and they died.
Too sum it up, you do the best that you can do at the time the problem arises. And I applaud people who do spend that kind of money, but I can sure empathize with people who just can't do it at the time.
Of course people can go overboard both ways. I saw one couple who was keeping a dog alive through blood transfusions for well over a year when the poor thing really should have been put to sleep.
And I've heard of people who put down a cat because it cost 50 bucks for an ear infection it got.
Psalmie: So happy to hear it looks evident your kitty got a new home! And I know what you mean about a petless home. It's so cold!
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