Private messages can be a way of saying something or asking another a question pertaining to only the sender and the receiver that you prefer not to say in public view. It isn't a back room to gossip in. How did that become the definition for a Private Message?
I make a clear distinction between gossiping and private information between the sender and receiver in my post.
Here, I thought you were Radar..as she's still posting now & then right? Frankly speaking (not Frank Burns) when I PT..it really should go no further than the party I'm e-mailing, otherwise we're in the gossip mode.
Oh I'm Hawkeye Pierce btw...gosh those were good shows eh??
I'm really surprised Mike would behave that way toward you. It is unlike him (and no one would accuse me of being in his fan club).
I concede, however, that his words on the stress thread are very much unlike him as well, so I'm not doubting you either. I just don't think it's very "Mike-like" to threaten anyone. Insult? Yeah, but his insults are usually a bit subtle (to him).
I once wrote a private message to a public person in the private section of a public forum which indicated a preference for privacy and not wishing for publicity (since I invoked the privacy from publicity), in public by privately posting on the public forum's privacy site that publically demonstrated privately there in the privacy from the public forum that my private comments should remain so.
That public person in the private section of the public forum took the private message publically said in privacy and misconstrued private thoughts publically declared in the privacy section of the public forum not as private thoughts (though publically declared there), but rather as public thoughts learned in private and meant for publicity on a public forum, and up for private interpretation.
This is scary, but I understand what you said. I have, nor would I ever do that. I take PM as seriously as I would a private e-mail that I would receive or send.
I went to the person that sent me a private message and told him I was going to reveal in part his intentions behind it because he wasn't letting the folks know something quite good about his heart that I knew they would benefit to know, it was critical to the dang story line of the thread for gawd sake! I WENT TO HIM FIRST AND TOLD HIM EXACTLLY WHAT I WAS GOING TO SHARE.
Was I right or wrong? Matters not because I WENT TO HIM FIRST.
Something that I don't get: Did this person say it was okay to reveal what you told him that you would reveal?
Hey!! :) I was just being goofy, but the point ( I hope) was made that private talk between posters should remain so.
Private message areas can be fertile ground for dissent, gossip, and general unrest and *uprising* -- but I choose to believe that most here will take something said in confidence, and not reveal it to the general populace. Also I believe that most here use the private message section of this site honorably, and not with malicious intnet.
Lord knows I've had my chances to mis-use it, and didn't.
Hate to use the analogy, but *it's a locked box* to me.
With the way you feel, why are you here? I'm not being critical, so please don't read in to it that way.
I think I had a critical attitude when I first came here (Chatty Kathy knows this for sure :) ), but then I realized that I cannot judge someone when I haven't walked in their shoes. I cannot say how long or when someone must simply "Get Over It." They will when they are ready. My ridicule never helped anyone heal. Love helps people heal.
If I don't particularly feel like hearing someone's soapbox, I read elsewhere or I turn away from the computer and do something else.
I like most Greasespotters. They are people with a story to tell. And that story has to be told. Sometimes venting helps people "Get Over It". It did for me. I no longer have rage in my heart from wrongdoings of TWI. Thanks to many GSpotters who lent me an ear to bend. :)
I like most Greasespotters. They are people with a story to tell. And that story has to be told. Sometimes venting helps people "Get Over It". It did for me. I no longer have rage in my heart from wrongdoings of TWI. Thanks to many GSpotters who lent me an ear to bend.
This is so true. And despite the fact that some stories seem to be *made up* (to some folks), and *the poster with the most stories wins* ---
THERE ARE ENOUGH OF US OUT HERE TO REFUTE ANY AND ALL FALSE CLAIMS!!
In other words, no one on this site can flippantly claim crap, and get away with it if they dare to name names, and dates.
We've been there. We were suckered too. We all remember the refuse that flowed downhill from twi many years ago, as if it were yesterday. If someone comes in here making up stories, you can bet your last bottom dollar that some one of us will call a spade a spade, and demand the proof.
The Greasespotters range from twi-1 to current, and (IMO) with our collective knowledge, we now have a very viable *hedge of protection* against any and all who wish to steal our freedom, some of it newly found, and some of it realized 2 decades or so ago.
I'm off on a tangent here, but I think it is in accordance with NOT revealing personal messages.
Twi has chosen to monitor this site, to find out who the miscreants are. The more they are kept in the dark, the better I like it.
Hey Pond..in case no-one has already..WELCOME TO GREASESPOT !! You sound like someone who has their head screwed on, so I presume you are not still in TWI !!
Anyway, not that it matters, but I pretty much agree with your post. I have nothing to hide; my name is there for all to see; I have no (real) fear !!
I may be pond now mike but I used to be? I had to change my name or something or other to post in new forum digs, long boring story frustrating as well.
pond,
Since anonymity seems to interest you why don't you have a name rather than a nickname? Was your name here prior a real one? I only bring it up because in your less than a dozen posts so far you've mentioned it in both the threads you've posted in so I assume it's of importance to you.
Wow! Go away for a week-end to meet these anonymous people who can't be trusted and you can miss a lot on here! :)
I enjoyed meeting and spending the week-end with some of my best friends in the whole world!! I suppose you get out of what you put into everything and I've gotten an awful lot out of my participation here at the Cafe'. I feel like I owe most people on here so much.
I don't like to post my real name on here because, like Bluzman said, I don't want it to show up on Google and other search engines. I haven't hidden who I am and anyone who wants to know and who doesn't seem like a stalker could ask in a PRIVATE message and I'd be happy to share that information. I do, however, consider private messages just that - private.
....AND, if I'm missing out on any gossip, I want to know!! :D :D :D
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I make a clear distinction between gossiping and private information between the sender and receiver in my post.
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Robin,
I'll be honest I just reread it and I did misread you. I'm sorry for that.
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Here, I thought you were Radar..as she's still posting now & then right? Frankly speaking (not Frank Burns) when I PT..it really should go no further than the party I'm e-mailing, otherwise we're in the gossip mode.
Oh I'm Hawkeye Pierce btw...gosh those were good shows eh??
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Pond,
I'm really surprised Mike would behave that way toward you. It is unlike him (and no one would accuse me of being in his fan club).
I concede, however, that his words on the stress thread are very much unlike him as well, so I'm not doubting you either. I just don't think it's very "Mike-like" to threaten anyone. Insult? Yeah, but his insults are usually a bit subtle (to him).
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Hey Loretta...your hot! :)
BTW, how ya been Krys? Long time no talk!
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stagnant=not advancing or developing
Rick, I'm embarrassed because I just got that. LMAO
Okay so that was a tad mean I reckon but heck I didn't get it when I read it the first time.
I wonder if I need to have my glasses looked at. :huh:
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Excuse me, but with the mention of the moon, I think I have to step in now. I (and only I) DO have a personal account of the moon!!! B)
The Lady of The Moon
(Yep real name. I am the one that they howl at.)
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I once wrote a private message to a public person in the private section of a public forum which indicated a preference for privacy and not wishing for publicity (since I invoked the privacy from publicity), in public by privately posting on the public forum's privacy site that publically demonstrated privately there in the privacy from the public forum that my private comments should remain so.
That public person in the private section of the public forum took the private message publically said in privacy and misconstrued private thoughts publically declared in the privacy section of the public forum not as private thoughts (though publically declared there), but rather as public thoughts learned in private and meant for publicity on a public forum, and up for private interpretation.
Hmmmmmmm. I would NEVER do that!
:D :D :D
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David
This is scary, but I understand what you said. I have, nor would I ever do that. I take PM as seriously as I would a private e-mail that I would receive or send.
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Yeah, I was following him also going this is weird man. :)
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Hey!! :) I was just being goofy, but the point ( I hope) was made that private talk between posters should remain so.
Private message areas can be fertile ground for dissent, gossip, and general unrest and *uprising* -- but I choose to believe that most here will take something said in confidence, and not reveal it to the general populace. Also I believe that most here use the private message section of this site honorably, and not with malicious intnet.
Lord knows I've had my chances to mis-use it, and didn't.
Hate to use the analogy, but *it's a locked box* to me.
:)
David
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Pond,
With the way you feel, why are you here? I'm not being critical, so please don't read in to it that way.
I think I had a critical attitude when I first came here (Chatty Kathy knows this for sure :) ), but then I realized that I cannot judge someone when I haven't walked in their shoes. I cannot say how long or when someone must simply "Get Over It." They will when they are ready. My ridicule never helped anyone heal. Love helps people heal.
If I don't particularly feel like hearing someone's soapbox, I read elsewhere or I turn away from the computer and do something else.
I like most Greasespotters. They are people with a story to tell. And that story has to be told. Sometimes venting helps people "Get Over It". It did for me. I no longer have rage in my heart from wrongdoings of TWI. Thanks to many GSpotters who lent me an ear to bend. :)
Take care.
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He didn't stop me when I told him I was going to do it and he had the option to. Does that help.
David and Wafer Not, you both hit on great truths about this place.
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i'm still catching up with all the posts here, but i want to say pond had some really good points, which i learned the hard way
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WayferNOT said ---
This is so true. And despite the fact that some stories seem to be *made up* (to some folks), and *the poster with the most stories wins* ---
THERE ARE ENOUGH OF US OUT HERE TO REFUTE ANY AND ALL FALSE CLAIMS!!
In other words, no one on this site can flippantly claim crap, and get away with it if they dare to name names, and dates.
We've been there. We were suckered too. We all remember the refuse that flowed downhill from twi many years ago, as if it were yesterday. If someone comes in here making up stories, you can bet your last bottom dollar that some one of us will call a spade a spade, and demand the proof.
The Greasespotters range from twi-1 to current, and (IMO) with our collective knowledge, we now have a very viable *hedge of protection* against any and all who wish to steal our freedom, some of it newly found, and some of it realized 2 decades or so ago.
I'm off on a tangent here, but I think it is in accordance with NOT revealing personal messages.
Twi has chosen to monitor this site, to find out who the miscreants are. The more they are kept in the dark, the better I like it.
David
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So Pond,
How long have you been out of twi? Or are you still in?
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Okay well I'll rephrase then:
Does that answer your question?
You replied already. So I'm glad it did.
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Good morning Mr. Linder.
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Hey Pond..in case no-one has already..WELCOME TO GREASESPOT !! You sound like someone who has their head screwed on, so I presume you are not still in TWI !!
Anyway, not that it matters, but I pretty much agree with your post. I have nothing to hide; my name is there for all to see; I have no (real) fear !!
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pond,
Since anonymity seems to interest you why don't you have a name rather than a nickname? Was your name here prior a real one? I only bring it up because in your less than a dozen posts so far you've mentioned it in both the threads you've posted in so I assume it's of importance to you.
Kathy
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Wow! Go away for a week-end to meet these anonymous people who can't be trusted and you can miss a lot on here! :)
I enjoyed meeting and spending the week-end with some of my best friends in the whole world!! I suppose you get out of what you put into everything and I've gotten an awful lot out of my participation here at the Cafe'. I feel like I owe most people on here so much.
I don't like to post my real name on here because, like Bluzman said, I don't want it to show up on Google and other search engines. I haven't hidden who I am and anyone who wants to know and who doesn't seem like a stalker could ask in a PRIVATE message and I'd be happy to share that information. I do, however, consider private messages just that - private.
....AND, if I'm missing out on any gossip, I want to know!! :D :D :D
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