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On 5/14/2024 at 12:51 PM, Raf said:

 

 

The pot here is having a delightful conversation with the kettle. You see, when I disagree with you, it's because of my sh-t-colored bias. But when I agree it's because I've opened my mind to the possibilities of what Scripture really means underneath those pesky little words it actually uses.

I'm curious to know what color glasses you wear when you approach the Book of Mormon and the Q'uran. 

Since you've established in this post and several that precede it that this kind of tone is fair game, I would like to point out that this one sentence (well, comma splice, anyway) may well be the stupidest, most refutable piece of dung you've ever written on this site, and that's saying a lot. [Sorry: YOU brought dung into the conversation as an acceptable reference to my point of view, so it's only fair]. 

Of course, there IS a cosmology in Genesis 1 that is actually laid out in Genesis 1. Had you taken a deeper look into the history of the Semitic people and the ancient Canaanites, you would see quite clearly that Genesis 1 reflects an actual ancient belief about what people once thought the universe looked like. Of course, you can't DO that without some degree of humility and acknowledgment of the possibility that you MIGHT be WRONG about something, so I wouldn't expect you to undertake this honest kind of inquiry that you have labeled "poop" to absolve yourself of the responsibility to read a f-ing book or two.

The ONLY reason those elements are considered symbolic today is that they have been disproven literally. There is no indication that the writers [plural: there was more than one and likely none of them were named Moses] meant anything other than what they said: that the sky is a giant glass wall holding back an ocean above us, and that there are windows in that wall that were opened to create the flood in Noah's day. 

It would be delusional to say he was mentally abusing children. But to say someone made up all the stories? Of COURSE someone made up those stories! They're preposterous. But if YOU want to say the stories are TRUE, then it is incumbent on you to document the historicity of each account. You can't even tell me who wrote which gospel! Now, you can call it "delusional" to believe the stories are all made up, but you do that while at the same time dismissing all the miracles of the Q'uran and the Book of Mormon as delusional, and you do so without even making room for the faintest of possibilities that they might be a "record" of something that actually happened.

Funny how that works. It's okay to be dismissive of the miracle stories of other holy books, but not of your own. It's almost like, what's the word Jesus [allegedly] used all the time? Hypocrisy?

That is LITERALLY what you are doing. You say these stories are true unless we prove them wrong, absolving yourself again of the responsibility in dialectics to prove the affirmative claims you are making. Meanwhile, again, you ignore "probabilities of any kind" that you are wrong to dismiss the miracle claims of other religions. Why is it okay for you to do that to every other religion but it's not okay for us to do that to yours?

Yes, but the Epic of Gilgamesh does not hold itself to be the Word of God, and its history is not put forth as a real accounting of events. Also, Spider-Man does not live, even though his comics say he lives in New York City. The fact that a story is placed in a real place, even at a real time, and its characters interact with real people, does not make the story true. Gilgamesh is fiction and never intended to be treated otherwise.

Genesis didn't become symbolism until skepticism exposed it as ahistorical.

Ok,, number one, the f'ing namecalling has to stop. I let you get away with it before and I regret it. Second, we LITERALLY do not believe we are the center of the universe. You have us confused with Christians, who actually believe the purpose of the universe is earth, the purpose of the earth is life, the purpose of life is man and the purpose of man is God. Actual Chrisitan dogma. The flipping NERVE to accuse us of that which you do!

The second stupidest thing you've written in this post, but probably only fourth or fifth stupidest overall on GSC.

So it's my responsibility to accept that you are right, period, shut up. Right? Because that's what you are actually saying. "Shut up and accept my views or, if you don't, YOU'RE arrogant." 

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I refer you to the previous thread: Religion has a vaccine for the Reason virus.

This is magical thinking, not reason. The whole POINT of using WORDS as the means of communication is reason, our ability to discern meaning from words. The ARROGANCE to suggest that because YOU have a proper attitude toward a Creator while the rest of us have a "bias to tear down everything!"

The GALL. I have news for you. It's not your humility to the Creator that allows you to excuse away any honest examination of scripture. It's your gullibility. 

The amount of projecting going on with that statement... there isn't that much projecting at Cannes.

Literally not my problem. And you’re the only one having trouble following logic here. 

Reported as namecalling. Knock it the hell off.

Jesus called out the hypocrisy of people who had a surface understanding of scripture but refused to look deeper. I'm just saying, if there are Pharisees in this conversation, it's not the people saying "do what Jesus did: look closer."

To me there is absolute gullibility and a nearly psychopathic desire to accept any explanation under the sun as long as it means not having to admit that you are wrong in how you are presenting your arguments for taking Scripture at your word instead of reading it in context and learning a bit more about the history of the people who produced it.

 

You seem to have us confused with Christians again. I think the scripture intends to say what it actually says. God may not have a purpose for every adjective, but writers do. And when you eliminate “perfection” as a goal of the writer, the bottom line is that they choose words for reasons. Had they meant to say the sky was an “expanse,” they would have. They said it’s a firmament because that’s what they thought. They were wrong. End of story, unless you think God was the Author and He meant something deeper. He wasn’t and He didn’t.

There is such a thing as an "anti-fundamentalist bias," a rejection of a thought or idea because that thought or idea is held by fundamentalists. The idea that the Bible is anti-gay is a fundamentalist bias. It’s also pretty dead-on accurate, isn’t it. That the scripture can be read and understood because of the words it uses, that's fundamentalist. It's also completely consistent with reason and scripture. But the idea that "I don't like what this says so I'm going to pretend it doesn't really mean that even though it says that quite clearly and historical analysis of what the people of that time believed and taught bears it out. Because I am humble" is indefensible.

You have rejected the claims of every one of those groups, and I would bet good money that you did so without giving them a FRACTION of the deference that Charity and I have given your views.

Now, I'm going to take a break from this thread so I am not tempted to put the modhat on and treat this obnoxious post of yours with the respect it so truly deserves.

This is the Atheism subforum. Christian scripture gets no special treatment here, and that is what you are explicitly demanding of us, under penalty of being subjected to juvenile namecalling and a level of hypocrisy that is astonishing in its lack of self-awareness.

If you cannot handle this forum, you are welcome to stay off it.

But post this kind of bulls hit again and the response will be, within the rules of this site, appropriate.

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WOW disagree with a man and you see the true vitriol coming out.

Swapping out the “mod” hat as you see fit.  Got it.  This is RAFs forum.  Don’t disagree with him or like many of the most prolific content providers on TWI you will be gone.

DontWorryBeHappy - tremendous detail in posts, driven away by mods, you specifically Raf as nobody else has active modded much of anything here besides you in over a decade.

***(The following factual statement is added by Modgellan: DWBH was not banned from GSC by any of the Moderators no matter what you have heard. We will not further discuss the status of any poster who is no longer able to participate here)***

skyrider and OS are no longer posting - most of the content is dead.

Look my point is simple.  Stories about things you can’t see involve inspiration.  If you read Green Eggs and Ham but don’t believe a Dr Seuss actually exists or that there is a real author writing under that pseudonym you are making up some kind of fantasy game about the real detail you can extract from it.

If there is no God no Jesus Christ my savior, no entities outside of the physical realm and no devil spirits then what exactly is it that you are getting so worked up about?

Yes your clever way about viruses to describe that natural knowledge and spiritual knowledge are in two different categories or dimensions isn’t really that clever.

You can choose not to believe in mental concepts.  Plenty of flat earthers think they have scientific backing.  

And calling out someone’s confirmation bias which you have and I have  certainly should not produce this level of hate or vitriol.

This whole logic about the epic of Gilgamesh “not holding itself to be the Word of God”

all those capitalizations are straight outta fundamentalist bias whether or not you want to face it.

The Word is my muse.

Find another muse besides hate if you want to truly “deconvert”.

And yes I’m happy to stay off this forum and direct my life in a different direction.  Let me know there anger boy.

Looking deeper into scripture comes from a spiritual perspective not from a lawyer cross defense perspective.  Jesus did not commend the Pharisees attempts to “look deeper” into scripture to catch him in his words and accuse him.  So there has to be something beyond the ego running wild that you attach to when “looking deeper”.

 

 

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On 5/12/2024 at 2:18 PM, Charity said:

I just finished quickly reading through a prophecy given by an old poster on this forum.  I am sharing his website if anyone is interested in reading it.  On it, there is also a link for his YouTube channel where he reads the prophecy.

https://www.eyesupandopen.org/index.php/prophecies-from-jesus-christ/sinners-come-to-me-in-this-last-time

Why am I sharing it?  Because it shows how two Christians, who became close online friends over the past year and a half ago, went in two extreme opposite directions within the past two months - me deciding to walk away from Christianity and him starting to share his fundamentalist prophecies online. 

I'm pretty sure most on this thread will reject this all-or-nothing way of thinking.  So what is left?  How does one decide for themselves which parts are allegories, fiction, myths, hyperboles, etc. and still believe the Bible is God's word? 

As it was pointed out to me in Revelation 3:15-22, being lukewarm is not pleasing unto the Lord. 


 

 

 

 

 

Yeah I do not concur with OS direction and agree that it is extreme.  I’m happy for him in his personal life though.

For me to answer the “what is left” question, and to key off the video making fun of people playing with toys, what I find useful is a child like believing mindset and looking for inspiration not consistency or accuracy as what I am reading is a blend of man and God writing.  I mean writing by inspiration while seeing through a glass darkly.  Or something similar.

Have you ever considered that the lukewarm bit in Revelation might be in the midst of a war with extreme circumstances?  I think I even read in a fictional work about Revelation an idea about every believer being martyred for confessing Jesus Christ as their Lord.

I don’t find that verse to be a reason to become a zealot.

How one decides which part is inspiration is a personal journey.  It is to me called faith this personal journey.

But if some jack@$$ wants to describe it as me being a kid playing with toys by myself and he’s ok with it then good.  I’m glad he’s happy with himself being funny and condescending to others beliefs.  It just makes him a jack@$$ atheist with a mic.

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Clearly I killed skyrider.

OS is perfectly welcome to post. He is not welcome to LIE. 

DWBH used this site to libel people. He proceeded to harass me on various social media sites in an effort to defame me before my friends, colleagues and peers. I DARE you talk to him personally about his relationship with me and why we're no longer on speaking terms. Bring a tape recorder.

You called me a dog and got mad at MY vitriol? Please.

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But if some jack@$$ wants to describe it as me being a kid playing with toys by myself and he’s ok with it then good.  I’m glad he’s happy with himself being funny and condescending to others beliefs.  It just makes him a jack@$$ atheist with a mic.


 

Once again, people are perfectly welcome to post all sorts of views about all sorts of things. What you want is not equal treatment, but privilege. You want to be able to call us arrogant and dogs and closed-minded and biased [and I see now that you have decided to escalate the name-calling], and you want us to not respond.

You and I had it out, we made our peace, and that was that. But for some reason this thread has you gobsmacked to the point where you can't disagree with Charity or with me without being personal about it, calling us names and accusing us of lacking your open-mindedness (which is not open-minded at all).

This is not how people with evidence on their side behave. This is how one behaves when one has lost a debate centered on ideas but still wants to appear to have some standing.

Like I said, I asked the other mods to have a look so that I am not moderating myself.

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One thing I have tried to be careful about, and you guys can "report" me (or others) if I'm wrong, is trying to keep the "critical" posts off the main doctrinal sections (Matters of Faith and Doctrinal). Nonbelievers are just as welcome to post there, but those pages are set up to give believers space to explore without our constant interference.

An unbelieving perspective would threaten to derail EVERY doctrinal discussion if not for that fact (just like Mike's thesis derails any discussion that's not already about Mike's thesis. It just does. I'm not judging).

Bottom line, I think, is that we have a doctrinal section where people are talking about Genesis 1, Purgatory, the Trinity, what God thinks of you, the cry of triumph, the unforgivable sin and numerous other issues. Sometimes a non-believer's view is tangentially relevant. Usually it's not. When I participate in those threads, it's typically minimal, makes its point, and then backs away. I think ANYONE can comment on the Bible on its own terms. You don't need to be a believer. For example, I think "My God My God, why hast thou forsaken me" was, doctrinally, Jesus quoting Psalm 22 and not making up some new expression for VPW to clarify 2,000 years later. And I said that on the thread. Because it's a doctrinal thread.

I also believe that never happened. I did not say that on the thread. Because it's off topic and inappropriate. So I kept that to myself because it was beside the point.

And we could do that with LOTS of issues.

Point is, the notion that Christians are unwelcome at GSC and that their beliefs are constantly under fire to get shouted down is a false one. It is untrue. The reason posters seem to feel that way is that they come into the atheist subforum and think that we are somehow obliged to give Christian beliefs a deference to which no other religion is entitled. This isn't even remotely complicated: The atheist subforum exists to give people like me a chance to demonstrate why I believe what I do without getting in YOUR space. It gives people like Charity a place to "come out" and share their journey. It gives people like Stayed Too Long a place to vent. All without disrupting honest discussions about doctrine.

You cannot come on this forum unless you do so voluntarily, and you don't get to come here and issue blanket denunciations of people for the crime of disagreeing with you.

Calling someone "arrogant" or "egotistical" is namecalling. It does not further discussion. It is not constructive criticism. It's judgmental namecalling, and if it had been handled the way it should at its first occurrence, perhaps that would have been more efficient. But then I would be accused of censorship, which happened ANYWAY.

If you want to challenge my ideas, then challenge them. But YOU CHOSE TO MAKE THIS ABOUT ME by attacking ME and not by engaging in an honest discussion. When you saw you had no logical or reasonable grounds to disagree with me, you went STRAIGHT to the personal attacks. 

And it's not the first time.

It's like you walked into an R-rated movie and were shocked that it had bad language, violence and nudity. Dude, you walked into an R-rated movie. What did you THINK you were going to find?

But then you take it too far and you claim there are no PG movies anymore, no G movies. When there are. You just keep buying tickets to the R-rated ones. That's on you.

You don't like it, you stay out. Go watch another movie. Go participate in another discussion. There are dozens, and the atheists on this site are pretty much leaving them alone.

Why are you?

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3 hours ago, chockfull said:

For me to answer the “what is left” question, and to key off the video making fun of people playing with toys, what I find useful is a child like believing mindset and looking for inspiration not consistency or accuracy as what I am reading is a blend of man and God writing.  I mean writing by inspiration while seeing through a glass darkly.  Or something similar.

The decision to no longer be a fundamentalist like twi taught us to be has opened up the choice like yours to look to the bible for inspiration not consistency or accuracy.  (Does saying this mean you think parts of the bible are not consistent or accurate?)  And instead of needing to take literally that “all scripture is God inspired and is profitable,” you can see the bible as being a blend of man (writing by inspiration while seeing through a glass darkly) and God.

Christians having different criteria for what they decide to believe and what they decide to disregard.  It's a pick-and-choose way of defining God in their lives.  That’s why I previously called this process as “Build a God” after the idea of “Build a Bear.” 

Christians are free to do this but my question is “Does God say it is okay to do this anywhere in his word?

So far for me, becoming an atheist meant that there's not enough of the bible that:

- teaches a god who always loves unconditionally and whose gifts are totally free

- is authentic without man-made changes, additions and deletions

- is not based on ancient myths and philosophers

- does not teach absolute obedience to a god or his son in order to avoid punishment (which is not the same as consequences) and hell

- consistently reliable when it comes to putting my trust in what it says.

I know there are other places to receive inspiration without the bible and all the baggage attached to it. 

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Ok, the overwhelming bulk of this thread has been superb discussion about Charity’s topic. Unfortunately there has been a bit of distraction that has gone on and those have devolved into rule violations of personal attacks and name calling. Those MUST stop beginning NOW.

I have chosen not to remove or edit those posts, but if more appear after this warning those will be removed in their entirety and the violator may be subject to requiring admin approval for future posts here.

Remember no matter what we hold dear in our beliefs, or are affirming, searching for, or developing of those beliefs, we each are free to participate in any topic in any forum at GSC. The only restrictions are to stay within the rules and preferably have something to do with the topic as it will develop.

Disagree with another as much as you want, but do not attack each other personally. You do this by expressing your own beliefs or basis, not by impugning another’s character or integrity. Use the “report” button rather than attacking back and forth.

The thread is now reopened.

-Modgellan

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6 hours ago, chockfull said:

Have you ever considered that the lukewarm bit in Revelation might be in the midst of a war with extreme circumstances?  I think I even read in a fictional work about Revelation an idea about every believer being martyred for confessing Jesus Christ as their Lord.

I don’t find that verse to be a reason to become a zealot.

 

The lukewarm bit and needing to be a zealot are also found in what Jesus said in the gospels about following him.  Some may say Jesus was speaking in hyperbole but when you put them all together, I think his consistent message of “all or nothing” is quite clear.  

And while Christians may choose to not take these verses literally, maybe because they require too much of followers, there are many who in their love for God have decided to believe them as they are written.  And unfortunately, many narcissists have begun ministries/cults to attract these types of believers and go on to abuse them every which way.  Most posters on GSC could say "been there, experienced that."

As an atheist, I see religion (by way of the bible) as a means of controlling people.  Atheists are often automatically accused of wanting to be one so they can to be free to sin.  However, to make that kind of generalization is being very close minded and ignorant of the way they do live their lives.  (P.S. Being a Christian does not guarantee any have stopped living in "sin".)

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Here are the verses I mentioned above.

In the gospels:

- To the young man who had kept the commandments since his youth, Jesus said he also needed to sell everything he had and give it to the poor.

-  Jesus said, “And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life

- To a man who asked to bury his father before he committed to following him, Jesus said, “Let the dead bury their dead: but go thou and preach the kingdom of God.”

- To a man who wanted to say good bye to his family before he committed to following him, Jesus said, “No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.”

- (Think of Abraham being willing to literally sacrifice his son when you read this quote.)  Jesus said, “Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.  For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. He that loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that takes not his cross, and follows after me, is not worthy of me. He that finds his life shall lose it: and he that loses his life for my sake shall find it.

- When being told his mother and brethren wanted to speak with him (seemingly out of concern for him), Jesus said, “Who is my mother? and who are my brethren? [And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said,] “Behold my mother and my brethren! For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.”

- Before ascending to heaven, Jesus saidto his apostles, “Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost: Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you.”

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2 hours ago, Charity said:

The decision to no longer be a fundamentalist like twi taught us to be has opened up the choice like yours to look to the bible for inspiration not consistency or accuracy.  (Does saying this mean you think parts of the bible are not consistent or accurate?)  And instead of needing to take literally that “all scripture is God inspired and is profitable,” you can see the bible as being a blend of man (writing by inspiration while seeing through a glass darkly) and God.

Christians having different criteria for what they decide to believe and what they decide to disregard.  It's a pick-and-choose way of defining God in their lives.  That’s why I previously called this process as “Build a God” after the idea of “Build a Bear.” 

Christians are free to do this but my question is “Does God say it is okay to do this anywhere in his word?

So far for me, becoming an atheist meant that there's not enough of the bible that:

- teaches a god who always loves unconditionally and whose gifts are totally free

- is authentic without man-made changes, additions and deletions

- is not based on ancient myths and philosophers

- does not teach absolute obedience to a god or his son in order to avoid punishment (which is not the same as consequences) and hell

- consistently reliable when it comes to putting my trust in what it says.

I know there are other places to receive inspiration without the bible and all the baggage attached to it. 

Charity, these are profound questions but I will try to answer as succinctly as possible.   Disagreements welcome: 

Christians are free to do this but my question is “Does God say it is okay to do this anywhere in his word?

"Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling"?

So far for me, becoming an atheist meant that there's not enough of the bible that:

- teaches a god who always loves unconditionally and whose gifts are totally free

The gifts themselves are free -- no amount of good works can earn them; but, later must be used, otherwise they basically are forfeited.    The fruit from the gifts then would be conditional.    Like muscles atrophy if left unused? 

- is authentic without man-made changes, additions and deletions

Agree; no originals exist that we know of?

- is not based on ancient myths and philosophers

Ancient myths can be true or false -- guess it depends on one's own belief?  

- does not teach absolute obedience to a god or his son in order to avoid punishment (which is not the same as consequences) and hell

Agree in part.   Punishment is part of getting back on the right track; like our earthly parents would do.    But eternal torture (the worst level in hell) is hard for me to believe that God would allow this.    

- consistently reliable when it comes to putting my trust in what it says.

Agree

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1 hour ago, Charity said:

The lukewarm bit and needing to be a zealot are also found in what Jesus said in the gospels about following him.  Some may say Jesus was speaking in hyperbole but when you put them all together, I think his consistent message of “all or nothing” is quite clear.  

And while Christians may choose to not take these verses literally, maybe because they require too much of followers, there are many who in their love for God have decided to believe them as they are written.  And unfortunately, many narcissists have begun ministries/cults to attract these types of believers and go on to abuse them every which way.  Most posters on GSC could say "been there, experienced that."

As an atheist, I see religion (by way of the bible) as a means of controlling people.  Atheists are often automatically accused of wanting to be one so they can to be free to sin.  However, to make that kind of generalization is being very close minded and ignorant of the way they do live their lives.  (P.S. Being a Christian does not guarantee any have stopped living in "sin".)

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Here are the verses I mentioned above.

In the gospels:

- To the young man who had kept the commandments since his youth, Jesus said he also needed to sell everything he had and give it to the poor.

-  Jesus said, “And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life

- To a man who asked to bury his father before he committed to following him, Jesus said, “Let the dead bury their dead: but go thou and preach the kingdom of God.”

- To a man who wanted to say good bye to his family before he committed to following him, Jesus said, “No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.”

- (Think of Abraham being willing to literally sacrifice his son when you read this quote.)  Jesus said, “Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.  For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. He that loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that takes not his cross, and follows after me, is not worthy of me. He that finds his life shall lose it: and he that loses his life for my sake shall find it.

- When being told his mother and brethren wanted to speak with him (seemingly out of concern for him), Jesus said, “Who is my mother? and who are my brethren? [And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said,] “Behold my mother and my brethren! For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.”

- Before ascending to heaven, Jesus saidto his apostles, “Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost: Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you.”

No argument.   It's readily apparent that one must desire to accept all that responsibility presumably for a greater purpose.    Here is a catholic prayer to the Holy Ghost:

'oh Holy Ghost, beloved of my soul, I adore thee.   Enlighten me, guide me, strengthen me, console me.  Tell me what I should do.  Give me your orders.   I promise to submit myself to all that you desire of me, and accept all that you permit to happen to me.  Let me only know thy will.'

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1 hour ago, oldiesman said:

No argument.   It's readily apparent that one must desire to accept all that responsibility presumably for a greater purpose.    Here is a catholic prayer to the Holy Ghost:

'oh Holy Ghost, beloved of my soul, I adore thee.   Enlighten me, guide me, strengthen me, console me.  Tell me what I should do.  Give me your orders.   I promise to submit myself to all that you desire of me, and accept all that you permit to happen to me.  Let me only know thy will.'

I'm asking sincerely if there were times you struggled with an answer you believed you received after saying this prayer.  Have there ever been feelings of guilt, doubt, confusion or fear as a result of listening for answers?

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The hard part of this- after 14 pages one must spend probably 14 hours reading and researching to contribute what is the word.. 

 

meaningfully. 

I prefer short cuts.  Read the first page, the second.. skim through the next to last and last page.. 

 

If I could really retire, I would do better here.

 

OK.  So..

 

One does not really lose one's religion.  I think that we are supposed to actually improve it. My opinion.  So far- I have seen no improvement over Matthew 22:37ff.  Just a lot of justification why not to do it- yep.. got our reasons and all.

 

We don't have much time to straighten ourselves out here.. life is but a vapor. 

 

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6 hours ago, Charity said:

The decision to no longer be a fundamentalist like twi taught us to be has opened up the choice like yours to look to the bible for inspiration not consistency or accuracy.  (Does saying this mean you think parts of the bible are not consistent or accurate?)  And instead of needing to take literally that “all scripture is God inspired and is profitable,” you can see the bible as being a blend of man (writing by inspiration while seeing through a glass darkly) and God.

Christians having different criteria for what they decide to believe and what they decide to disregard.  It's a pick-and-choose way of defining God in their lives.  That’s why I previously called this process as “Build a God” after the idea of “Build a Bear.” 

Christians are free to do this but my question is “Does God say it is okay to do this anywhere in his word?

So far for me, becoming an atheist meant that there's not enough of the bible that:

- teaches a god who always loves unconditionally and whose gifts are totally free

- is authentic without man-made changes, additions and deletions

- is not based on ancient myths and philosophers

- does not teach absolute obedience to a god or his son in order to avoid punishment (which is not the same as consequences) and hell

- consistently reliable when it comes to putting my trust in what it says.

I know there are other places to receive inspiration without the bible and all the baggage attached to it. 

A lot to quote but- I really don't agree that TWI was ANYTHING "fundamental" in the Christian arena. By no means..

Other than a claim of being such.

We'd have to go into the abortion issue here..  and politically it is probably forbidden.

 

Plus another half dozen issues..

TWI fundamental.. I don't think so. 

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Just saying..  take the abortion issue.  The Fundamentalists regard it as a work of the Devil..

TWI- Disagree.  It has its uses- especially if a possible son of a man of God is to be illegitimately born.  Well.. that was the Old TWI religion.  What does the organization think now?

 

That is just... the tip of the proverbial iceberg. 

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What we need.. heh.

At the end of the fiftieth page, a brief summary..

 

What the hell are we talking about here.. heh

 

Don't you know?  Nope.  Looks pretty interesting though..

 

God Bless you dear Friends..

 

 

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3 hours ago, oldiesman said:

Charity, these are profound questions but I will try to answer as succinctly as possible.   Disagreements welcome: 

Christians are free to do this but my question is “Does God say it is okay to do this anywhere in his word?

"Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling"?

 

Hi oldiesman, thank you for your answer.  The action I was referring in my question though is whether it is okay with God for believers to choose which scriptures to believe and which to discard.  Phil 2:12 does not speak to this. 

It speaks about how obedience is required when working out ones salvation because God will be working in them, at the same time, to be willing to do his good pleasure.  

Phil 2:12 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. 13For it is God which works in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.

(The phrase "fear and trembling" is used in two more verses and obedience is mentioned in them as well. They are 2 Cor 7: 15 and Eph 6:5.)

 

 

 

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4 hours ago, oldiesman said:

The gifts themselves are free -- no amount of good works can earn them; but, later must be used, otherwise they basically are forfeited.    The fruit from the gifts then would be conditional.    Like muscles atrophy if left unused? 

The first gift from God (and the one all future gifts are dependent on) is salvation, but since there is a requirement attached (that you must make Jesus your Lord), it is not a free gift.  If that requirement is not met, there is no salvation and one remains condemned to death/hell.

The way God set everything up from the very beginning in Genesis 2 was conditional on obedience and the result of the first sign of non-compliance was death.  What parent would set up such a system with their child?

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1 hour ago, Ham said:

A lot to quote but- I really don't agree that TWI was ANYTHING "fundamental" in the Christian arena. By no means..

Other than a claim of being such.

We'd have to go into the abortion issue here..  and politically it is probably forbidden.

 

Plus another half dozen issues..

TWI fundamental.. I don't think so. 

I used the word fundamentalist because it means believing the bible is the literal word of God and that it is inherently accurate.  This was how vp wanted us to view the bible, but you're right in that he felt free to change it whenever it suited his fancy.  I think because of the former, many were gullible to accept the latter.

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1 hour ago, Ham said:

I really don't agree that TWI was ANYTHING "fundamental" in the Christian arena. By no means..

I agree, a lot of the phrases used to promote wayism were not main line Christianity

"inherently accurate" was never used in the Lutheran or Southern Baptist teachings

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1 hour ago, Ham said:

The hard part of this- after 14 pages one must spend probably 14 hours reading and researching to contribute what is the word.. 

 

meaningfully. 

I prefer short cuts.  Read the first page, the second.. skim through the next to last and last page.. 

 

If I could really retire, I would do better here.

 

OK.  So..

 

One does not really lose one's religion.  I think that we are supposed to actually improve it. My opinion.  So far- I have seen no improvement over Matthew 22:37ff.  Just a lot of justification why not to do it- yep.. got our reasons and all.

 

We don't have much time to straighten ourselves out here.. life is but a vapor. 

 

After starting the thread, I wanted to change the title to "letting go" instead of "losing" but wasn't sure if that was possible. 

I never used to have a problem with Matthew 22:37-39 - what could be wrong where love is concerned.  However, the part I used to overlook or ignore before, now stands out - is it love when you are commanded to do so with there being negative consequences when you don't?

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1 hour ago, Ham said:

Just saying..  take the abortion issue.  The Fundamentalists regard it as a work of the Devil..

TWI- Disagree.  It has its uses- especially if a possible son of a man of God is to be illegitimately born.  Well.. that was the Old TWI religion.  What does the organization think now?

 

That is just... the tip of the proverbial iceberg. 

...possible son or daughter.  So effing true and so effing bad.

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8 hours ago, Charity said:

After starting the thread, I wanted to change the title to "letting go" instead of "losing" but wasn't sure if that was possible. 

You're supposed to say the magic words: "Modcat5 killed Mufasa."

Then we can change it.

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11 hours ago, Charity said:

I'm asking sincerely if there were times you struggled with an answer you believed you received after saying this prayer.  Have there ever been feelings of guilt, doubt, confusion or fear as a result of listening for answers?

No, and no.   But "answers" aren't always there for me either.

 

Hi oldiesman, thank you for your answer.  The action I was referring in my question though is whether it is okay with God for believers to choose which scriptures to believe and which to discard.  Phil 2:12 does not speak to this. 

It speaks about how obedience is required when working out ones salvation because God will be working in them, at the same time, to be willing to do his good pleasure.  

Phil 2:12 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. 13For it is God which works in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.

(The phrase "fear and trembling" is used in two more verses and obedience is mentioned in them as well. They are 2 Cor 7: 15 and Eph 6:5.)

 

Agree, and agree.  The first one, I don't know if it's ok with God to believe one "translation" over another; I think it's one of those mysteries but I do believe that God will be judging that from what he sees in our hearts.    The second post, agree, eternal life comes with conditions.   Thx for the correction.

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